(Closed) Overly Nosy (Financially) In-Laws, How Do You Handle It?

posted 8 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, just don’t share the details. If they are not paying for it there is no need for them to know. Just say that it was a reasonable price and everything is all set.

Post # 4
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m confused – why are you telling them the cost if they aren’t contributing financially?  If they ask the cost, I would just say something like “Oh, it’s within our budget” and leave it at that.  Then, change the topic to some other detail (color scheme, some idea you had, etc).  Eventually they will stop asking.

Post # 5
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326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I must agree with the other gals. If they aren’t writing the check, all you need to tell them in reference to cost is “reasonable” or “within our budget.”  There is absolutely no need for them to inquire about the cost of things.  In my experience, it was much easier to just withhold details from people who I knew would be difficult.

Post # 7
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would not discuss how much things cost with them. If your parents are paying and they like to keep that type of information private, I think it’s best to not discuss costs with them.

Post # 8
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1510 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

While your in-laws shouldn’t be asking the price since they are not contributing financially, you are doing this to yourself if you keep telling them the price.  Next time, tell them that you don’t remember or don’t have it in front of you, or whatever, but defuse the conversation by not telling them.  Eventually, they may pick up on the fact that they shouldn’t ask.  But you are adding to the fire by telling them.

Post # 9
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ooh I know how you feel. My parents are very generously funding my wedding at a fabulous venue and my Future In-Laws keep commenting to what seems like EVERYONE about how expensive our wedding is. It drives me crazy!!

I agree with what everyone before me said in that, don’t tell them the numbers! It’s none of their business. If they ask, just say “Hmm, I’m not sure” or “I’m looking at a few options” or “Don’t worry about it” *with a smile of course*

And make sure your Fiance is on the same page so they don’t start badgering him about prices.

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