Post # 1
Just the other day, I overheard my mother and sister talking about me and how good of a wife i will be since i’m so careless about things and can’t do anything right. I went to bed in tears that night and my engagement party is a few days away. Plus, i had a rough few days at work so I was really on edge and stressed out. I know i’m not perfect and I try my best in everything, yet trying is not enough. I guess compared to my sister she is always the perfect one in the family. I think this also stems that my sister likes to be the center of the attention and I’m not. I tend to be more quiet, hates attention and keep things to myself. Alot of times, i wish i was like her so that my mom would loved me as much. 🙁 On the other hand, my sister is my mom’s favorite among the three of us. She doesn’t have to say it but her action speaks louder. I try not to let it bother me as much but when she criticize me and tells me my sister can do this and that so perfectly makes me feel horrible inside.
Before Fi, i used to think no one would want to be with me because i’m not “perfect” and with many disappointments in dating. Then I met Fiance. 🙂 He accepts me for who i am and always tell me to just be myself even when I know I’m not the greatest cook or cleaner. It brings tears to my eyes just thinking about it and makes me love him even more.
p.s. sometime when it rain, it pours.
Post # 3
@sillie: “He accepts me for who i am and always tell me to just be myself even when I know I’m the greatest cook or cleaner.”
^^This is what’s important. My mom’s favorite is my brother, but I don’t let it bother me because I am who I am, and I don’t plan on changing that. I’m sure your mom loves you in her own way, and maybe it’s an imperfection of HERS that she doesn’t show you how she feels.
Put on the big girl pants & let it roll off your back!
Post # 4
I don’t really believe in people being overly sensitive! It is their problem, not yours. Maybe they are trying to make themselves feel better about their own issues by putting you down. You are awesome exactly as you are, because you are you. You have a wonderful fiancé who knows that. Don’t let them get you down!
Post # 5
Your Fiance loves YOU and wants to marry YOU.
Don’t let others put you down like that.
Post # 6
Ugh, why the hell would your own family treat you like this? Ignore them. Your Fiance loves you. No one is perfect, hun, not even the people who seem like it. <3
Post # 7
I’m sorry you had to over-hear that. 🙁 It never feels good to hear people say anything less than nice about you, especially your family. I know that my Mom talks to my sister about me (and vice versa). Thankfully, my sister and I are close – so we just take the dose of crazy in stride! You have your Fiance…he wants to marry you just the way you are. Don’t take to heart the opinion of others – just love yourself and allow yourself to be loved for who you are!!
Post # 8
You are not marrying your mother or your sister. So it really doesn’t matter what they think. If your fiance wants to marry you just as you are, then he accepts you, and that’s really all that should matter.
Tell your mother and your sister to subscribe to HBO so they can gossip about Game of Thrones instead of your upcoming marriage.
Post # 9
thank you all for your kind words. 🙂 I feel much better today and looking forward to the wonderful wedding plannings to come.
Post # 10
I hear you! I was told no one would love me because I’d make a rubbish wife. Boy were they wrong! (-:
Post # 11
Omg i would have told my mom to bite me! Good thing they don’t have to marry you and the guy that is seems happy to do so!
Post # 12
I’m glad you were able to cry about it, vent on WB and post a few days later that you’re feeling better. You didn’t deserve to overhear that rubbish and I’m sorry that happened. I second the person who said nobody’s perfect – even your sister. I’ll bet she spends a lot of time working on being “perfect” instead of just being who she is. That’s no kind of life, esp. when everyone knows “perfect” is impossible to maintain. I’m so happy you’ve found a great guy who loves you and wants you to be his partner in life. That’s what matters! Don’t let these family fools get you down, little lady!