(Closed) Overopinionated Groom: You care about WHAT?!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@stardustintheeyes:  that cake is fantastically horrible. Does it have little figurines of the bridal party lined up on it?

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@letigre:  Oh my god, it’s the funniest thing.  It’s on one of our walking routes, so we’ll see new dresses in the window and he’ll be all “should we make an appoinment after work this week?”  Sadly, it’s so far out of my current budget…but they were really nice to him when we were there!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Mine was very opinionated about the WRAPPING PAPER for the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen gifts.  Wrapping paper of all things!!!

But i’ve mostly just given in for anything that he has an opinion about. It’s good to have a groom involved in the planning, and I think it gets them more involved if they feel like they have a say!  Geez, that sounds like I’m training a pet or something, but indeed, that’s how it works!

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I was surprised when my fiancé was adamant about wanting a photobooth. He’s a total cheapskate so I was like “really, you actually WANT to pay $800 for this?”  That’s awesome though, I love photobooths. 

Other than that, he really doesn’t care. Except for food, we both knew we would have steak as one of our plated options and I figured chicken would be the other choice. But he insisted we pick salmon… even though he and I will order steak, he was strongly fighting for salmon over chicken. Sure, fine, whatever! 

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Mine is also extremely opinionated and involved. He ended up choosing our colours (which I was happy about, so no issues there), and has taken charge of food and drinks, since he has a background in hospitality and has very high standards. He’s also very into little details I never thought would matter. Example: EXACT colour matching to our particular shade of green on the Save the Dates. He’s crazy, but I’d much rather him be interested and involved than totally nonchalant. 

Doing our registry is going to be interesting…

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My Fiance is so opinionated!! He has specific flowers he wants involved, envisioned a specific look for the guys (he is dead set on brown shoes… damn GQ magazine), is very specific about the ceremony, wanted a certain type of transportation, and certain liquors for the bar.  I’m basically the planner for his ideal wedding LOL!

That being said, he’s also been super helpful when it comes to all my DIY projects, so it’s nice to be so involved with the wedding together! 

Post # 23
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

My Fiance is now opinionated, but only in the negative.  Like if I have an idea, he almost never wants to do it.  Or it has to be “more simple”.  I think it’s a bizarre money-saving thing, but he has to remember we’re throwing a party, so it can’t be terrible just because “well, we’re feeding them, aren’t we?”

For example, he doesn’t want any “entertainment” at the wedding (not even day care for the kids so we can relax), adamantly opposed to videographer, no photographer or even groomsmen when he’s getting ready, he doesn’t want any decorations on the cake or “fancy” flavors, and I had to talk him into a DJ.  The “thing” this week was cake topper.  No birds, no people, no monogram.  I was at a loss until I found the best cake topper EVER online which is totally out of his wheelhouse – which for some reason he is ok with, I think because he sees my joy.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MissVisuality:  oh my gosh the matching. When we were picking out our invitation suite we had the invitations first and the save the dates second. I had my heart set on postcard save the dates and was even willing to pick one that didn’t match quite as well so we could have postcards but he totally put his foot down and was like “No. The save the dates have to match the invitations. I want the other ones.” And the ones he wanted (that we got) are gorgeous and I love them, but it was funny how adamant he was about that one thing. We’re also doing our registry soon and I’m sure it’s going to be interesting.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

This is hilarious! We just started planning but I’m expecting him to care about all of the details, given his personality. He is laid back but also pays close attention to details. I’m excited though! I think it would really bum me out if he didn’t care.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ughh my Fiance has no interest in the wedding… Right now I have appointed him one job; call the father of his good friend who is a pastor. We would like him to marry us; but I have been nagging him for months to do it.  🙁 I’ll have to end up doing it myself. Be glad!

Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’re only in the very beginning stages of planning the wedding (looking at venues, picking a date, etc.) but the topic of saves the dates and invitations came up.  My mom said that she likes when STDs match the invitations, to which Fiance adamantly agreed.  He went on for a while about how they really need to match.  Then, at the end, he’s like “So, what are saves the dates?  Do they go out with the invitations?”  I just cracked up laughing.

 

On a more serious note, he is being soooo picky about the ceremony site!  Yes, that’s important, but I keep trying to explain that the reception area is much more important because that’s where the majority of the wedding happens.  Seremony is 20mins, reception is 4-5 hours! We looked at one place that had a beautiful ballroom with high ceilings, gorgeous windows, so light and airy but he had nixed it from the beginng because the ceremony space was too close to the golf course (it was a golfing club).  Yes, it wasn’t the perfect place, but he doesn’t seem to care at all about what the reception space looks like, only the ceremony.  I’m hoping that when we find the right venue we both feel it right away!

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@luluvohn:  Ha ha, oh yes! Usually I’m the one being weird about colour matching, but this was at a whole ‘nother level! 

I can totally see things being nixed from the registry because we “don’t need them,” or other things being added that I never would have picked. He has already stipulated that we register somewhere with an electronics department, so I’m concerned! Men! 😛

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Fiance has opinions on most things, usually after the fact (even if I ask him beforehand and he doesn’t have an opinion).  I don’t want to be told after I cut and print all the invites that we should have added a comma when he could have voiced his opinion on commas when I gave him the multiple drafts to look at-which were all “fine.”  

Post # 31
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mu_t:  my FH has been so ridiculously opinionated about our venue (i have several threads about this) I get that it’s important but he can’t tell me what he doesn’t like about any of them or what he wants.  I’m pretty sure we’ve finally found one (after breaking his heart over one that’s just way too much money – almost $9k for the ROOM, no tables/chairs/food etc).

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