(Closed) Overopinionated Groom: You care about WHAT?!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@mu_t:  My FH has been pretty quiet on wedding planning and is happy to let me take care of most things… but he has specified:

  • Blue bridesmaids (phew, I was already going for that!), suggested our reception venue (a charter cruise of the beautiful GC harbour! Sentimental meaning as well and I didn’t even think to come up with that – great idea, what a legend)
  • white suit for himself!
  • Our cake can look however the hell I want it as long as it is HAZELNUT Made-Up Drama. Not just mud, or chocolate mud, it must be HAZELNUT XD

Am completely happy to go with what he wants, seeing as I get to choose everything else! I’ve been encouraging him to come up with other stuff too if he thinks of it, as long as it’s not too “out there” i.e. riding in on a unicorn etc haha..

Though it does makes me love him more as well too 🙂

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Fiance and I have agreed on pretty much everything. As soon as we were engaged we set the date (we both wanted an 18 month engagement, and both wanted to get married on our anniversary which just happened to fall on a saturday, 19 months from then lol). We agreed purple was our colour. Both liked all our vendors, already knew who the bridal party would be ect ect.

Then he decides to be difficult on a CAKE.

Our caterers happen to provide a mud cake, which is a cake we both LOVE. He buys one every fortnight and the cake from the caterers is made by a store, which makes the BEST MUDCAKE EVER! So, I figured mudcake was our cake.

For some reason, he decided he wants spongecake with jam. I was just like ‘whaaa? You love mudcake and I hate spongecake. I didn’t know you liked spongecake. Plus, the mudcake is free from the caterers and it’s from that awesome shop and…..’ So we agreed to have 2 cakes, one sponge cake and the mudcake, provided the cake he wanted didn’t cost a fortune. He has since decided he doesn’t want spongecake now. I don’t get it!

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Also, my bouquet.

He says the other day ‘Have you ordered your bouquet yet so we can see if it’s good enough?’

It was cute, but I never would have thought he’d give a crap about what flowers I was holding lol. He’s not having a boutonniere and the bouquets will be the ONLY flowers we have. So I really didn’t think he’d even have an opinion on whether they were ‘good enough’.

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Artificial-Sweetener:  Lol buckle down, it took over 2 months for Fiance to do his only job, book the hotel for the night before (so I could get ready) and the night after.  And he ended up just picking the one I had “lovingly” suggested weeks, nay months, before.

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@mu_t:  I am in love with these ones from Melabo Wed on Etsy.  I thought no way would he go for them, they’re too weird, and he’s a very traditional guy (though he dislikes many traditions…he prefers them to be not done vs. changed).  But we’re both not into the “people” or theme-y ones, and he suddenly announces he “doesn’t like birds (in general)”, so I think he knows he’s a bit…uhh…limited.  The Melabo ones are totally up my alley, a bit on the weird side, but I’m a little concerned he won’t go as full-out on his “animal” as I want him to (you can pick your own animal head!!) and we’ll end up with something more whimsical than strange.

My fave: Mr. Deer + Mrs. Bunny!  Or Mr. Stallion!  Or Mrs. Pig!  Or Mrs. Squirrel!  Or Mr. Ram!  I can’t decide, I’m so excited!!

 

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mu_t:  I’m going through the exact same thing.

It’s mostly about money.   My mother has expressed very clearly that she wants to cover the wedding.   I’m doing what I can to side-step that (IE getting to the vendors first with my checkbook so I beat her to it on most things.)  We’re blessed to have her generous financial support but he has major guilties about it.

As a result he gets super anxious at prices -even though we are having a winter wedding and getting big discounts and our vendors have reasonable prices – he’s still getting major sticker shock.   Then he goes into a big schpiel about how the wedding industry is such bullsh*t.

I get it, I do.   But it’s driving me absolutely nuts.   My mom can afford it, what I’m covering – I can afford.   Just back off and chill.

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mu_t:  I’m glad you added in that you are listening to his opinion. I came here to comment on that. 🙂

 

Mine has been really vocal on some BIZARRE stuff. Like at first he did NOT want fondant on the cake, but then he tasted our cake person’s fondant and was adamant about having it. 

Also, I printed our address labels and return labels myself. Of ALL of the things to care about? He wanted the final say in the font. THE FONT! He was saying things like “That one is too squiggly.” “I can’t read this one” “It needs to be fancier!” I was secretly cracking up.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@mu_t:  Mine is in charge of the food and music.  He has a lot of restaurant food experience, and he is a musician….. I was doing both of them myself, and I was starting to get really pissy over the food.  So I fired myself and let him take care of it.  He seems to be handling it much better than I would.  He has been pretty insistant on photography too, and we found someone we both are happy with.  But other than that, I am doing all of the planning.  But so far he really likes what I am planning.

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mu_t:  Seriously. Fonts. I just–what? “I don’t care about the invitation but the outside font? This is where I must take a stand!” Bwahahaha

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mu_t:  OMG I know you how feel all to well. Fiance is extremely laid back and has never had an opinion about anything wedding related until about 2 months ago. All of a sudden”he thinks the cake is too dry” from the bakery we decided on…..SIX MONTHS AGO. Why he wouldn’t tell me right after the tasting is beyond me! I have found as the wedding gets closer he is having a “feeling” about everything Yell He keeps telling me he feels like I get to pick everything and I gently remind him that when I asked his opinion before he just shrugged and said whatever you think. I am praying that it will stop soon otherwise he is going to drive me crazy lol!

Post # 42
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8700 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mu_t:  Oh, man. EVERYTHING. DH planned like 75% of our wedding.

He was a major Groomzilla!

Post # 43
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2013

OMG i thought I was the only one! Everyone I talk to tells me their husband didn’t really have opinions. I swear I can’t call a vendor without him wanted to be present! He hates almost everything I like, so I’ve just settled with teh stuff he likes. I was completely shocked how involved he is too! I guess it’s a good thing.

Post # 44
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ok so my fiance is EXTREMELY opinionated about the wedding. We are planning everything on our own which is stressful enough, but he is super picky and very particular about *everything* including flowers, decor, etc. This has been really fustrating for me as I wasn’t expecting it, the wedding is much more for him than me as I would have been happy with an elopment. I never realised men would care about things like flowers but obviously I was naive haha. So yeah in my situation the groom is the bridezilla lol…

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mu_t:  nothing. He’s just going with whatever I want. I half want him to have an opinion about something, instead of just getting if you like it, then we’ll get it. 

Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He was strongly against any suit color that wasn’t dark (charcoal) grey. I convinced him to just try on a medium grey suit. He loved it. 

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