Post # 1
This is my first ever post! So I hope to interact with you all and share ideas/thoughts on wedding planning!
My fiance and I currently live in Thailand on a beautiful remote island. He proposed last month and at the moment our biggest decision is do we get married back home (in Australia) or here in Thailand?
My brother got married in Fiji and our family had an amazing time and everyone thought it was fantastic. Thailand is further away but cheaper once you are here and already we have had so many people ask if we will do it here. If we had our wedding in Thailand I worry for people’s financial position, them feeling oblidged to come. Then I know and would trust that if people cannot come then they will say so (which we 110% understand and would never expect of people). Also would having a destination wedding mean having a wedding of ‘guests that can afford it’ compared ‘to those that matter’?
I would love peoples opinions on destination/overseas weddings!!
Post # 3
We’re not engaged yet but we’ve been having the same thoughts, we are in Singapore. The deal breaker for me is my grandparents. They can’t fly anymore because of their ages: 91 and 86 (in fact, I think they never renewed their passports anyway) and they are very important to me.
Also, SOs family couldn’t afford it and it would be like asking them to go into debt or not bother to come which seemed kind of mean. If your immediate family can afford it, or you’re willing to pay to get them there then do it. Once we factored in flying his family here, it’s cheaper for us to get home even though the cost of a wedding is cheaper here than in the UK.
But that’s all dependant on if you want them there or not. For us personally, family is too important and no doubt both our mothers would be really heartbroken if we “eloped” (eloped where we live?), we couldn’t do that to them.
Those are my thoughts.
Whatever you decide though, I’m sure you’ll have a perfect wedding. (My parents live in Thailand too)
Welcome to the hive!
Post # 4
Haha thanks! I am already addicted! As I am living abroad I find it has been hard to talk to people that I don’t know quite well about ‘wedding issues’…
All of my immediate family went to Fiji (not to say they would come to Thailand) but those that we have spoken to said they would come… A few uncles/aunties and my Nanna would not be able to come and that is my concern… In saying that though we come from a smallish city and if we get married in Australia we still would like it to be a destination wedding (in Australia-say an hour or 2 drive) so I don’t think my Nanna would come… She is 89 now and I know she would love to come but she no longer likes to leave the house as she is comfortable at home and her body is in too much pain (so as much as I know she would love to, I don’t think she would make our wedding even if we had it at home)…
Its hard because you hear people say ‘it’s your wedding’ but I just don’t want to upset people along the way…
Hopefully your engagement isn’t too far away!
Post # 5
@island_bee: It’s definitely a tough one. I do agree with the “it’s your wedding” comment but ultimately it’s because it’s my (our) wedding that I want to make everyone happy. Ever the people pleaser! There’s always the option of making sure to have a nice dinner with the people that can’t come when you are in Australia next. I think I have the “fairness” factor in mind in our scenario, I wouldn’t want more of my family to come just because of cost if that makes sense.
Regarding our engagement: me too! He asked my Dad for his blessing in July 2011, I’m still waiting. Procrastination I think. But it’s easy to get addicted 🙂