Oversharing about your child(ren). Can I just rant a quick minute?

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Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel ya.  I unfollow people all the time for oversharing (not just babies, also for political stuff).  Social media is my out when I’m braindead, and I don’t want to see that stuff when I log in.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

Gonna play Devil’s advocate here…when you become a parent, you truly are in love with your child. Everything that they do for the first time, gross or not, has a memory attached to it. That’s why we tend to over-sentimentalize things that other people may just not get. Give your friend a break. She likely is just all wrapped up in the throngs of everything that parenthood encompasses, and those are big feelings.  In an age of social media, that’s often a go-to outlet for those feelings. While I certainly wouldn’t feel the need to document my child’s projectile vomiting, I understand that anything having to do with her child has a story attached to it, and she’ll likely want to look back on all these stories and laugh and reminisce one day. If it bothers you, just scroll on. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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smalltownbigworld :  I work in a field where I see my fair share of puke/poop but I really would not appreciate seeing it come up without warning on my newsfeed. Thankfully nobody I’m friends with on social media overshares to that extent. I would honestly unfollow them or report the photo anon to Facebook. 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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smalltownbigworld :  I’m pretty sure it’s more like: if I have to deal with this crap, it’s not going to be me and me alone, I’m going to torture someone else with that as well. Of course I only do that to my husband and I never take pictures because that’s extra gross, but some people have no filter, as evidenced by their photo sharing of everything else no one wants to see either, even when it’s not gross.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

when you become a parent, you truly are in love with your child. Everything that they do for the first time, gross or not, has a memory attached to it. That’s why we tend to over-sentimentalize things that other people may just not get

 

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Windborn :  Just in reply, I get what you are saying but you can commemorate and remember stuff without having to post it on Facebook for the world to have to see and remember with you. People are seriously losing the plot of they really think  that Facebook is the only way to record memories and that it didn’t happen if it’s not on Facebook.

Nobody  needs to see your kids exorcist moment or the moment they decided to do a jackson pollock with their shit. To think your friends need to see it all and remember along with you is just odd and oversharing to the max. 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper

I don’t care how in love you are with your child. That part is normal. Sharing literal crap is not. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

None of my friends/family post that type of stuff about their kids. The second they do, I’m unfollowing. It’s fine if you find your kids vomit and shit adorable or a priceless memory but I sure as hell don’t and I don’t want to see/hear about it.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

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cmsgirl :  Sure, but it’s their choice whether they follow or not. Don’t want to see pics of my kid and my domestic life? Then take a hike! Nobody has a gun to your head saying you have to follow any certain account

I find people who complain about what other people post and yet continue to follow to be a bunch if whiners. Unfollow them of you don’t like it. I personally enjoy documenting my child’s growth on social media. I look back at all the funny comments my friends and family make on the photos and it brings me right back. That’s not something you get from a photo album

 The beauty of social media is that you choose what you follow. So you are the one who can censor it. Don’t complain about it on Weddingbee, just unfollow or ignore it for heaven’s sake. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

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Windborn :  I mean it wasn’t like she said something to the person about it she came on here to vent which people do all the time on weddingbee vent about random shit.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

That’s why I have never or will ever be on facebook or similar forms of social media. I just don’t give a crap (pun intended) about most people’s lives nor do I give a crap about spending time trying to document mine for the world to see. 

I have much less anxiety and have more free time because of it! But yeah, just unfollow the annoying ones if you really want to stay on social media.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I mean, I truly am in love with my husband. And I don’t feel the need to post to Facebook if he projectile vomits or takes a crap lmao. 

I get annoyed at all the oversharing stuff too. If a parent wants to post a bunch of cutesy pictures of their kids, no problem! I understand they’re happy and they want to show them off to the world. But there really is no need to share the gross stuff. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - -

What really blows my mind is that people don’t seem to be considering how the child will feel about it when they are older, or how they’d feel if they understood and were able to have a say about it now. When a photo is posted on the internet it’s out there forever. Even if it’s taken down, it still has the ability to have been saved on a hard drive somewhere. And if not, it can come up in searches for years to come. Imagine poor Bubby trying to interview for jobs as a young adult when these pics have been put on the internet for the next decade or two. These photos can pop up and be taken out of context without the cute/funny caption or story behind it. I’m so glad my parent’s didn’t have social platforms while raising me! I plan to be very sensitive about what I share when I have kids.

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

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absinthevintage :  Oh man, all of this! I think we take for granted that every little moment of our lives that gets shared is because *we* allow it. Children don’t get a say! I’d be so embarassed to grow up with every aspect of my childhood shared online. Maybe my sentiments will change when/if I ever have my own, but for now I plan on not sharing too much regarding my hypothetical child on socials. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I’m so with you on this and not just because it’s gross and who really cares that Bubby just threw up everywhere (both of which are true) but mostly because I find it to be so insensitive to the children. It really amazes me the things people post about their children with no regards for their privacy. 

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