(Closed) Overthinking? Need a reality check.

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
586 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Hmmm… It sounds to me that he really just A) fell in love with the first ring for you, B) already bought it or C) is planning on buying it ….But either way, it’s sort of odd that he would suddenly become so touchy about the whole ring process when you suggested what you liked if he’s ultimately trying to make YOU happy … Is there any chance you could have moissanite put into the same Vera wang setting he seemed to like? (Assuming you do too, that is) perhaps you could casually suggest that idea at some point, and see how he reacts. I feel like that would be the best compromise here! 

Post # 3
976 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Hopefully when he asked why you no longer wanted the Vera Wang ring, you said something like, “Oh, I still love that ring too! I’d be thrilled with anything you chose.”

And then you don’t have to talk about it again.

Post # 4
5996 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Girl it’s time to start complementing that vera Wang ring from now on! Let him know that a moissante can’t hold a candle to it! And let him do his thing after. Be patient ☺

Post # 5
1104 posts
Bumble bee

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sweetaslemons :  did he maybe think you wanted the moissanite because you thought he couldn’t afford the ring he’d already showed you? guys can be a little sensitive about earning and spending power. i was super clear with DH that i would be more than happy with a gemstone ring (and i was being honest), but he still went with a diamond. it’s also possible your guy already started purchasing the other ring and is now worried you changed your mind about the style. i’d just reiterate that you love the first ring so much, but that you were just browsing options. 

Post # 7
8283 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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sweetaslemons :  Hmmm it sounds like maybe he really fell for the VW ring and has possibly been saving with the view to getting that exact ring, or he may have bought it and then your talk about moissy may have thrown him a bit.

Post # 8
1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yeah I’m pretty sure he already bought the ring, his reaction to your other ring talk wouldn’t be like that if his options of what to get you were still wide open. He thought he was set.

Post # 9
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My guess is he already bought it. My DH purchased a year before he proposed, and within that last year my ring desire basically went from the princess halo ring to a hexagon art deco-y type ring. I felt bad after finding out how long he had it because he told me I was giving him doubts about what he had already purchased! Oops…. 🙂

Post # 11
10314 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Sounds like he was really emotionally invested in the first ring you looked at together (and probably the happy memory) and really wanted THAT to be the ring so that you could both always associate it to this happy memory. I also think its possible he probably had bought it or was paying on it.

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