(Closed) Overwhelmed…

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m not new anymore but yes it was stressful!  Add to that the fact that we had to move across the country right after the wedding and I was a huge ball of nerves!

Post # 5
Member
1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Honestly I was the exact opposite. I had my name changed 72 hrs after the wedding. My last name was an absolute disgrace to me and thought of changing it as a teenager. Darling Husband and I kind of secluded ourselves after the wedding for a little over a month and did nothing and it was so awesome. It is alot to deal with, the wedding, moving on top of that and all the legal things like name change but it will done shortly. Just take a deep breath and not let it get the best of you or each other. This stuff should be fun, if going to the DMV could ever be fun I guess.

Post # 6
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

No one says that you have to become a wifey wife and wear pearls and hoop skirts and stay and home and cook and clean!  We are in the modern age!  You can do that if you want to but you can also do whatever you want.  I cook every day usually but I don’t clean much.  Once I start working, we will probably have to switch off cooking or figure out a different plan since I will be more busy.

Post # 8
Member
1508 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I feel for you jqoulart, I’m still dealing with change. I had to move 30 miles from one side of a metro area to another. I did Social Security and the DMV pretty fast. It took me three months to get around to changing things with HR. I’m still working on changing credit cards. I also still travel back to my old neighborhood to get my hair done. I miss my friends so bad and he thinks his friends wives should become my friends. I mean I can be friendly with them, but I can’t really have girl talk with them.

Post # 9
Member
2027 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m not a newlywed anymore, but I just wanted to chime in that I cried for about a week after I changed my name. I always knew I would change it and never thought of doing it differently, but afterwards, it just really overwhelmed me. I kind of panicked and wanted to change it back, but after a month or so, it grew on me. Now it feels like “me.” 

Just hang in there and you’ll feel better soon!

Post # 11
Member
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i was weirded out after changing my name. i thought i’d be fine, and i was, it was just weird not having the same name as my family and not being able to remember my new last name. it’s been 3 months and i still forget sometimes and have to think before signing things. but i’m more ok with it now, and i know it’ll just take time to remember.

Post # 12
Member
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

I am happy that the wedding stress is behind us! Getting used to the new last name has been interesting. We already lived together so nothing really changed since the wedding for us. I’m sure it’s hard because you moved! Hope it gets better soon and hang in there! Just keep thinking about the new, wonderful husband you have now. 🙂

Post # 13
Member
8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2009

Name change was the hardest for me.. i loved that i was a Mrs. and always knew i was going to take his last name, but i was, still am, and always will be extremely proud of my maiden name! So, instead of dropping it completely, i added it as a second middle name. Worked for me lol!

Post # 14
Member
17 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am totally feeling the same way.  I just got married about a month ago and moved to a new state right after the wedding.  I am really happy to be with my hubby but it’s so hard to be away from my family.  I come from a big family and we all get together (remember my big fat greek wedding?! that’s how my family is).  We just came back from going to visit everyone for the memorial day holiday and now naturally I’m homesick again! Added to this is that I am newly pregnant  so I probably am more emotional and looking for familial support more than I normally would. 

Any way, I’m hoping the homesickness gets better soon! 🙂

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