(Closed) OVERWHELMED…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It will be ok. Just prioritize your to-dos into a spreadsheet and assign each dates based on priority. I put the entire to-do list from the knot into a spreadsheet (with their assigned dates included) and went through and deleted lots of it and personalized it to what I need. I then methodically went through the list, in deadline order, and knocked off each item, one by one. If completing one to-do spawned another, (such as, booked DJ, now you need to pick songs), I just added it to my spreadsheet. I keep the to-do list (and detailed guest list) on a small flash drive that I keep in my purse, so I can work on it at work and at home.

Most importantly, just relax, you don’t have to do it all right this second. It is easy to feel overwhelmed.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It sounds like you have most of the major things done! Try to prioritize–I’d say book your DJ, push your Fiance to contact his groomsmen soon, order Save-The-Date Cards, and the rest of the stuff can wait a little.

Wedding planning is so overwhelming, and there’s always more you can do. Sometimes it helps to just take a day or two off, to regroup, and get back into it. I’m a compulsive list/spreadsheet maker, so in my experience it usually helps to organize it on paper (or on the computer) and assign a “due date” for everything. It sounds like you already have an idea of what needs to get done, so start working on things one at a time and work through your list. You can do it! 🙂

Post # 5
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

First, breathe…. Now smile and remmember “It’s gonna be alright.”

 

My thoughts, you’ve actually got quite a bit done already. We only decided to get married in March & got married in January so we did everything in less than a year.

See if your venue can hrelp you with any of the following:

  • Book DJ
  • Book Lighting
  • Groom’s tux
  • Book decor company
  • Reserve block of hotel rooms
  • Book shuttle and limo

They likely have “preferred vendors” they can recommend and that might save you some legwork and possibly some money if they have any discount deals set up with other vendors.

Also, you don’t want to purchase decor items until you’ve identified & discussed with the company you will use. Thyr might offer rental on some items and be able to get wholesale pricing on others. Also, once you see a mock up (computer drafted) of what your room(s) will look like, you might not need some of the stuff you are contemplating. We ended up buying things before we had done a mock up and then couldn’t return them when it turned out to simply be too much.

Start working on your Save-The-Date Cards now; that should take priority since you are within a six month window currently. Is it a destination wedding or on a holiday? Otherwise you might be able to skip Save-The-Date Cards altogther. You need to compile your guestlist & gather their addresses and phone numbers. Use your mom, siblings & bridesmaids for help with this! Then, use that info to do invitations.

you still have time for things like accessories & attendant/family gifts. And we wrote out a ceremony & did it at our rehearsal only to have our officant “go rogue” on the day of and do something totally different, so don’t sweat it.

 

Big Bee huggggg & hang in there!

 

 

 

 

Post # 6
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The good news is that you got the major things done Congrats! Now, take a deep breath and start grouping things in order of importance. I definitely recommend that you book your DJ, and have your Fiance contact his groomsmen. Then I would begin making up the guest list and ordering your STD’s. Here is my list of priorities for our October wedding to give you an idea

Tasks Completed

Booked Church

Booked Venue

Booked DJ

Booked Photographer

Booked Florist- Flowers for bridal party and centerpieces have been picked.

Booked Caterer- Menu and cake has been selected

Booked hall for Bridal Shower

Booked hair appointment for me and my girls

Bought invitations- Templates are set up on the computer ready to printed

Ordered STD’s- In production and awaiting for delivery

Bought stamps

Ordered gown and accessories- Awaiting Delivery- Expective to arrive in July/August

Orderd BM’s gowns- Awaiting Delivery- Expected to arrive early June

Things to do- March

Complete Prepare inventory for our Pastor

Start Printing addresses for STD’s

Send out STD’s last week of March

Begin to Register

Things to do in April

Touch base with the Florist- Need to Design my bouquet, and need to finilize everything we talked about

Touch base with the caterer- Need to make some adjustments to the table linens, and go over the layout of everything at the hall. Final head count won’t be until 2 weeks before the wedding. I may just place a call and ask when this should be done, April seems early to me

Touch base with DJ- Find out when he will need our music list

Things to do in May

Not sure yet, LOL, and I am not worried about it- Need to get cake topper, cake serving set, garter.

Things to do in June

Make sure my mom sends out bridal shower invitations

Bridesmaids dresses arrive- need to give color to my Fiance so he can coordinate colors for the groomsmen

Order transportation

Groom needs to figure out attire for him and his groomsmen

Things to do in July

Start looking for Transportation

Send out Wedding invitations last week

Hopefully dress arrives and I can begin alterations

Call company where I plan to order favors from to find out when they need my order placed

Buy gifts for parents and bridal party

Things to do in August

Bridal shower- ist week August 6th

Hair Trial- May do this the day of bridal shower, so they can style it after the trial for the shower.

Get ring for Groom

Things to do in September

apply for marriage liscense

Order Favors

Get responses back and contact anyone who hasn’t sent in their response

Finalize head count and everything else with the the Caterer

Finalize Alcohol budget

Go for final fitting-

Things to do in October

Tie up any loose ends- whatever that may be

Go over everything one last time with the caterer, photographer, DJ, Florist

Send in out final payment to the Reception Site

Get married and have fun!

 

I am sure I have a bunch of other things that I have to do, but I am NOT going to stress over it, and pretty organized and know what i have to do. Anything that i may have forgotten my mom or sister or someone will tell me.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Awww Dont worry.  I think you have plenty of time.  The list may look long, but the tasks are fairly straight forward, just need to sit down and commit to doing them.

Just to give you an idea…my wedding is in July and heres my completed list:

  • Save the date sent
  • Venue- booked
  • Photography- need to send deposit
  • Wedding Dress- being altered
  • Bridesmaids Dresses – bms are reusing a dress from wedding last year, 2 may not fit,
  • Color scheme/decor scheme decided upon
  • Guest list started (asked parents to start theirs)

I’ve been saying Oh crap for the past 2 weeks… but finally sat down and looked up some officiants, emailed a few djs, worked on my invites, the rest will fall in place.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you are doing really well. I counted 16 things on your list. You have more than 16 weeks to go, so I would say prioritize them and (depending on the size of the task) only focus on 1 or maybe 2 of the tasks per week. Don’t think about the rest, you still have time. You’ll be done and having a blast at the wedding before you know it!

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