Post # 1
A bit panicked. We still have 10 months to go, or is it 9: We are getting married on April 20th. I’m so excited but in the last two months, so much has happened and so little has happened I’m beginning to feel like I’m going to drown in this.
We don’t have a venue STILL since it takes quite a bit of money down for the venue and the last couple of months are the hardest financially (and always are every year) and I still haven’t gone looking for my wedding dress.
But we have a few things done… We have the ceremony musician, the reception musician, we have the photographer, the caterer, his grandmother is making the wedding cake, I’ve been working on the DIYs, we have the bridal party chosen, we narrowed our venue down to 4 possibilities so far. We know the colors, we know what we plan to do but a big thing…
Our guest list. Cutting out everyone we could it’s still so much bigger than we originally imagined. We are on a tight budget and originally we figured invite 100 of our closest family and friends and only 75 will show. Well once we actually sat down and filled out the guest list of people we HAD to invite, we are already close to 200 and that’s not including one side of my FIs family. IDK what to do, I’m going to drown in this planning. It’s getting MUCH bigger than we thought originally…
200 plus people, I don’t even know if our venues would be able to hold that many people. We aren’t social butterflies or anything, we aren’t trying to make it the event of the year but these people, we can’t not invite, they are important to us. We have large families and we are close with out families.
IDK what to do, it seems like he just proposed last week (although he proposed in April) and I’m already so far behind and so overwhelmed. We can’t push the date back as people from across the country are already set on that date. Any advice, tips or anything? I’m kinda suffocating in this…
Post # 3
I know what you mean, I planned wedding for 190 guests in 8 months. It was stressful, but worth it in the end. You can do it!!!
Post # 4
@pinkgreenandyellow: Don’t worry. It seems overwhelming in the beginning but time will slow down a bit once you have your vendors nailed down. Try to enjoy the process and take your time with decisions. It will all come together and be perfect! And I promise you’ll have time to breathe again soon!
Post # 5
Thank you both… I didn’t expect to be like this, I’m still so excited and not frustrated, and even if things go “wrong” as long as we say “I do” I’m happy, but there are so many little details for 200 people I feel like I’m running around like a chicken with it’s head cut off
Post # 6
I know exactly what you mean. I just got engaged last month (we are getting married in late feb./early march) and I am overwhelmed, too! There are so many details to worry about and so much money to spend!
Post # 7
@pinkgreenandyellow: You poor thing 🙁 That would stress me out, too!! I don’t know if this will help, but we’re date twins (April 20th, cool!) and you’ve done WAY more than me as far as planning goes. Also, my guest list ballooned to almost 200% of what I wanted as well. Don’t worry, it will all work out. seriously.
Whenever I get stressed (and I do a lot), my Future Mother-In-Law keeps reminding me that all these people are here to celebrate with you. You said that you’re close with your family. that’s awesome! In that case, you know that they won’t judge you, your Fiance, or your wedding if you don’t go ALL out for the event. They’ll just be happy and excited to be there with you.
It might take some work to find a venue that fits 200 (although if you’re inviting 200, your attendance might be more like 150), but it’s possible. April isn’t PEAK wedding season, so venues don’t fill up as fast. You’ve still got a fighting chance. And who knows? Maybe even some of the ones you already have picked out can hold 200! Just take 15 minutes tomorrow to call each and find out. You’ll feel a lot better once you’ve got that figured out, and you don’t have to wonder anymore.
Best of luck to you and your Fiance, and if you ever need any more support, head on over to the April 2013 board/April 20th thread! I always check there 🙂