- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
My fi and I have been engaged for about 6 months after dating for 3 years, and I cannot wait to marry him. The problem is I’ve been dreading planning the wedding because my parents have made the entire process miserable.
My dad of all people has new requests and demands from his side of the family every time we speak on the phone (he has a big, traditional family that MUST be invited and catered to). My dads family even offered to pay for the day so they could have it ‘their’ way! (We’re footing the bill ourselves.)
My mom has been harping on me nonstop to have a religious ceremony, and when I gently and firmly tell her no, she turns around and tells me I shouldn’t be getting married at all if its not in a church.
We have booked a venue for the spring, but I don’t think I can endure this harping, demands and trying to live up to everyones expectation but our own. We would rather have a casual party and ‘surprise’ attendees with a wedding ceremony, or eloping or having a destination wedding, all sooner than our May 2013 date.
I just hate the typical wedding where people have such high expectations and complain the whole time. If I had a choice I wouldn’t invite most of the aging family brood and just have a few family and some friends in a casual atmosphere.
Has anyone felt this way also? What did you do to get through it? Did you go through the wedding of everyone else’s dreams, or did you change plans?
I’m thinking of maybe getting people together for a party for some other reason, but am struggling to find a good fake party premise. We just had a birthday/engagement/housewarming party 3 months ago, where all of this harping started.