We’re using this to plan. It’s a useful rough guide for time management and to remember we didn’t forget anything that needed to be done months ago. Sorry it’s so messy, I can’t figure out how to put it on here.
12 MONTHS OR MORE BEFORE THE WEDDING
Determine type (formal, semi-formal, informal), style and theme of the wedding.
Sit down with your fiance and ALL parents and discuss the wedding budget, and who will pay for what.
Come up with 2 or 3 possible wedding dates and start looking for ceremony and reception venues. If a venue you like is available on one of your chosen dates, book it immediately; many venues will often be booked up to 2 years in advance, so have several choices in mind beforehand in case they are already booked.
9 TO 11 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Start looking for and interviewing all the remaining vendors:
Caterer (if needed)
If any vendor you like is available on your date and is within your budget, book them IMMEDIATELY! Like reception and ceremony venues, many of these vendors can be booked up to a year in advance.
Finalize your wedding colors, theme and style.
Select your attendants (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl and ring bear) and ask them to honor you by being in your wedding. Make sure they are aware of what their “duties” are.
Choose and purchase your wedding rings.
Begin looking at honeymoon options. Discuss where you both would like to go, and if needed visit a travel agent.
Start looking for a wedding gown, veil, accessories and your attendants attire.
6 TO 8 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Start planning the wedding decorations
Start making wedding decorations
Start planning ceremony and reception music choices.
If you haven’t already finalize and purchase your wedding gown, veil, and accessories.
Start looking for groom attire
If you are having a prenuptial agreement, take care of that now.
Finalize attire for attendants.
Start pre-marriage counseling (if required)
Start looking at invitations.
Sign up for your gift registry
Send save-the-date cards/newsletter
Start making/buying wedding favors
4 TO 5 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Work with your florist and finalize your arrangements.
Place wedding announcement in local newspaper
Order wedding stationary (invitations, envelopes, programs, etc.)
Finalize Groom attire
Select wedding cake (and Groom’s cake if you are having one)
Start making arrangement for rehearsal and rehearsal dinner
If you decided not to use a Wedding Coordinator, consider asking a close friend not in the wedding party to be your Wedding Coordinator/Personal Assistant.
Finalize wedding favors and decorations
3 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Plan wedding bouquet and boutonniere
Order your wedding cake
Meet with your officiant to discuss details of the ceremony
Reconfirm the rehearsal dinner plans
Buy the cake knife, guest book, toasting glasses
Choose gifts for your attendants, parents, helpers.
Reconfirm honeymoon arrangements.
Start writing your wedding vows, if you are doing them yourself.
Start addressing the invitations
Finalize music selections for the ceremony and reception and turn them in to the DJ/Band/etc.
2 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Finalize wedding decorations
Send out invitations
Schedule a hair and make up consultation to do a trial run.
Obtain wedding license
Schedule your first wedding dress fitting.
If you are having one, begin putting together your ceremony program.
Meet with vendors (caterer, florists, etc.) to finalize arrangements.
If you are changing your name, complete the proper documents.
Engagement photos taken
Meet with your officiant to finalize ceremony details.
Start working on the reception seating chart.
Confirm honeymoon reservations.
1 MONTH BEFORE THE WEDDING
Wedding cake trial
Meet with photographer and/or videographer to discuss last minute details.
Have final wedding gown fitting.
Make sure men get their final fitting for their tuxedos.
Finish (and print) the wedding program.
Finalize wedding vows
Confirm all final payment amounts with your vendors as well as date, time, etc.
Pick up marriage license.
Contact any guests who did not respond to the invitation.
Finalize reception seating chart.
2 WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING
Arrange someone to pick up rentals
Arrange people for cleanup
Arrange people to pick up/make food
Confirm delivery time and locations with florist.
Pick up wedding gown, attendants’ gowns and all accessories.
1 WEEK BEFORE THE WEDDING
Give final guest count to reception venue/caterer.
Reconfirm everything with vendors one last time.
Have a manicure and/or a pedicure.
1 DAY BEFORE THE WEDDING
Attend rehearsal dinner. Give attendants their gifts.
Put together the tip envelopes (for the vendors) and give them to the designated “tip person” (generally the best man).
If you have access to the ceremony and/or reception venues, bring everything over there that you may need (decorations, guest book, etc).
Layout everything you need for the next day in a safe place (marriage license, dress, shoes, etc.).
Speak with everyone in the wedding party and make sure everyone knows where to be at what time.
Try to go to bed early and get some sleep.
YOUR WEDDING DAY
Eat breakfast, even if you think you aren’t hungry.
Share a private moment with your fiance.
Have your hair and makeup done.
Give the best man the ring pillow
Begin dressing two hours before ceremony is scheduled to begin.