(Closed) Overwhelmed Bride-to-be. Please Help.

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Post # 3
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

You could still send Save the Date’s with something creative like “We’re getting married and we want you there! Sring 2013! We’d love to share more please keep an eye out for more details!” That way out of town guests can start to save or plan for the trip and the minute you have a date have those invites ready to go!

Do you have a photographer? Do you have a DJ or band? You could just go with iPod music. There is a great app called My Wedding DJ. I think it costs like $1. You can plan out the whole thing from pre ceremony music, processional, recessional, cocktail hour, first dance, dinner, party, EVERYTHING. It’s awesome!

I’m also doing a sort of music theme and will be using some of our favorite songs as table names instead of numbers. My plan is to frame the lyrics in some cute little frames to put on the tables. And I’m also not doing much with fresh flowers. Check out Pinterest for centerpiece and decoration ideas. Candles and wine bottles can go a long way.

You seem to be doing pretty well though all things considered! You have the basics done! The place and the dress are the biggest things. Everything else will fall into place!

Post # 5
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We’re using this to plan. It’s a useful rough guide for time management and to remember we didn’t forget anything that needed to be done months ago. Sorry it’s so messy, I can’t figure out how to put it on here.


 Determine type (formal, semi-formal, informal), style and theme of the wedding.

 Sit down with your fiance and ALL parents and discuss the wedding budget, and who will pay for what.

 Come up with 2 or 3 possible wedding dates and start looking for ceremony and reception venues. If a venue you like is available on one of your chosen dates, book it immediately; many venues will often be booked up to 2 years in advance, so have several choices in mind beforehand in case they are already booked.


 Start looking for and interviewing all the remaining vendors:



 Caterer (if needed)


 If any vendor you like is available on your date and is within your budget, book them IMMEDIATELY! Like reception and ceremony venues, many of these vendors can be booked up to a year in advance.

 Finalize your wedding colors, theme and style.

 Select your attendants (bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl and ring bear) and ask them to honor you by being in your wedding. Make sure they are aware of what their “duties” are.

 Choose and purchase your wedding rings.

 Begin looking at honeymoon options. Discuss where you both would like to go, and if needed visit a travel agent.

 Start looking for a wedding gown, veil, accessories and your attendants attire.


 Start planning the wedding decorations

 Start making wedding decorations

 Start planning ceremony and reception music choices.

 If you haven’t already finalize and purchase your wedding gown, veil, and accessories.

 Start looking for groom attire

 If you are having a prenuptial agreement, take care of that now.

 Finalize attire for attendants.

 Start pre-marriage counseling (if required)

 Start looking at invitations.

 Sign up for your gift registry

 Send save-the-date cards/newsletter

 Start making/buying wedding favors


 Work with your florist and finalize your arrangements.

 Place wedding announcement in local newspaper

 Order wedding stationary (invitations, envelopes, programs, etc.)

 Finalize Groom attire

 Select wedding cake (and Groom’s cake if you are having one)

 Start making arrangement for rehearsal and rehearsal dinner

 If you decided not to use a Wedding Coordinator, consider asking a close friend not in the wedding party to be your Wedding Coordinator/Personal Assistant.

 Finalize wedding favors and decorations


 Plan wedding bouquet and boutonniere

 Order your wedding cake

 Meet with your officiant to discuss details of the ceremony

 Reconfirm the rehearsal dinner plans

 Buy the cake knife, guest book, toasting glasses

 Choose gifts for your attendants, parents, helpers.

 Reconfirm honeymoon arrangements.

 Start writing your wedding vows, if you are doing them yourself.

 Start addressing the invitations

 Finalize music selections for the ceremony and reception and turn them in to the DJ/Band/etc.


 Finalize wedding decorations

 Send out invitations

 Schedule a hair and make up consultation to do a trial run.

 Obtain wedding license

 Schedule your first wedding dress fitting.

 If you are having one, begin putting together your ceremony program.

 Meet with vendors (caterer, florists, etc.) to finalize arrangements. 

 If you are changing your name, complete the proper documents.

 Engagement photos taken

 Meet with your officiant to finalize ceremony details. 

 Start working on the reception seating chart.

 Confirm honeymoon reservations.


 Wedding cake trial

 Meet with photographer and/or videographer to discuss last minute details.

 Have final wedding gown fitting.

 Make sure men get their final fitting for their tuxedos.

 Finish (and print) the wedding program.

 Finalize wedding vows

 Confirm all final payment amounts with your vendors as well as date, time, etc.

 Pick up marriage license.

 Contact any guests who did not respond to the invitation.

 Finalize reception seating chart.


 Arrange someone to pick up rentals

 Arrange people for cleanup

 Arrange people to pick up/make food

 Confirm delivery time and locations with florist.

 Pick up wedding gown, attendants’ gowns and all accessories.


 Give final guest count to reception venue/caterer.

 Reconfirm everything with vendors one last time.

 Have a manicure and/or a pedicure.

 Make cake


 Attend rehearsal.

 Attend rehearsal dinner. Give attendants their gifts.

 Put together the tip envelopes (for the vendors) and give them to the designated “tip person” (generally the best man).

 If you have access to the ceremony and/or reception venues, bring everything over there that you may need (decorations, guest book, etc).

 Layout everything you need for the next day in a safe place (marriage license, dress, shoes, etc.).

 Speak with everyone in the wedding party and make sure everyone knows where to be at what time.

 Try to go to bed early and get some sleep.


 Eat breakfast, even if you think you aren’t hungry.

 Share a private moment with your fiance.

 Have your hair and makeup done.

 Give the best man the ring pillow

 Begin dressing two hours before ceremony is scheduled to begin.

Post # 6
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Additional information: we changed some things from the original guide. We’re making our own cake and aren’t paying for a planner or anything like that. So it might be good to go through and make sure everything is there. 

Post # 7
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Oh!!! Also, Pinterest! yes! I would go batshit insane without it. This is mine: http://pinterest.com/eveningplumeria/ 

I’m using it for concept building and diy ideas. Also colors and how it all looks together. 

I don’t really use it for the other wedding posts on pinterest. Country mason jars weddings are about the only thing posted on pinterest. I use mine for visual organization of other pictures I find all over the internet. 

Post # 8
641 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Im with you, I am kind of finding it a little overwhelming too. I am basically planning it all myself, and I live really far from my family, and where were getting married and have no one here to talk wedding with.  Its so hard explaining ideas on the phone to mom who doesnt know how to use a computer lol

And not to mention the wedding is 5 hour drive away, so its hard to pick things out in that town…I havet o be creative on how I plan it all because I drive a small car, and have 2 kids so theres not alot of room to pack thinhs in the car


Are you going to have favours?





Candle centerpieces are a great way to add ambiance, but theyre also cheap! But you need to find out if the venue allows candles.  My venue is allowing floating candles, so I am working my centerpieces around that.

Do you need linens? Sometimes its cheaper to buy them wholesale then sell them after

What about a bar? Does your venue provide that? Are you having wine? Do you need a license for that?

Dont forget what your Fiance is going to wear

Do you need bouts and corsages? Are you getting them for honourary family members? Like parents, siblings, grandparents etc?

There is sooo much to planing a wedding, I  also have a small budget so sometimes it makes it that much harder because you have to be creative and DIY. 

Post # 9
2868 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@PlumeriaSplash:  Wow, that’s an awesome list 🙂

Post # 10
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, you are BUSY.  Not sure how much spare time you do have but a DIY wedding be a good way to save money.  You can do simple things yourself like the table numbers, table decor, bouquets, etc.  But you need some time for that.

I see that you’re making the food yourself.  You will need to get a few items since you are self catering, like plates, silverware, flatware, glasses, linens, napkins.  You can do this on the cheap by doing paper of plastic. Also, photography, DJ (music), refreshments (lemonade, alcohol, etc).

Also as for church decor, you can o simple. Tissue paper poms and some ribbon. And candles as reception decor.

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