(Closed) Overwhelmed by all of the life changes. Help

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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463 posts
Helper bee

That’s really tough, I’m sorry! You are doing great though. Hopefully the change of scene after you graduate will help you move on from the breakup. It’s awesome that you’re getting interviews!

Once you land a job you’ll have the funds to get your own place right? Since it sounds like things are moving quickly, do you have savings or can you get a loan from family to put up one month’s rent? It sounds like you’ll have a job in a month, so maybe you could work things out to move straight into your own place if you can get that first month’s rent.

Hugs – it’s an awesome sign that you’re enjoying having your own place with your dogs – I have no doubt you’ll get back to that soon! Post dog pics?

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@angustia:  I am so sorry that you have to go through this.

“I know I should be happy,”  Wrong! Wrong! Wrong!

You have just ended an important relationship, you are leaving the routine that you’ve known for years when you finish your degree, you are moving back in with your parents (which would cause feelings of conflict in any normal person).

Give yourself permission to have your feelings, to grieve the loss of both your relationship and the plans the two of you had.

You sound like a strong woman to me. Give yourself some time. I see you bouncing back in a new and happy life.

 

Post # 7
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46680 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@angustia:  I had to move in with my parents and two kids when I left my husband and went back to school. That move will give you the breathing room you need both emotionally and financially.

Post # 8
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293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

aww your dogs are cuties!!!! 

I can definitely understand where you are coming from. Your world has basically been turned upside down and you had plans….I guess that’s why people always say to have a backup plan. 

You should be happy that you are graduating because these days there are a lot of people still who haven’t even accomplished that. You sound like a really good girl with a good head on your shoulders and have a lot going for herself. I do know how it feels to move back in with parents because i did that after my freshman year of college and lived with them up until I graduated…I couldn’t wait to get a real job and get out the house. I was just like you started interviewing the day after my graduation I had interviews lined up all week and I got a job within 2 weeks and moved out after about 8 months. Do what you need to do to get back to your independence because just like you my independence was very important to me. I say just focus on you for now….maybe pamper yourself a little for graduating ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Good luck with everything! 

Post # 10
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46680 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@angustia:  You’re welcome. One tip? When anyone says “you should”  feel or do anything, feel free to ignore them. You will feel and do what is right for you.

Post # 12
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2122 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

As others have said, you absolutely need time. A lot of changes (good and bad) have been happening all at the same time and it’s totally normal to feel as you do. Cry it out hugging your lovely dogs and don’t feel bad for doing so. There’s also no need to feel guilty over not feeling happy about your graduation. You have the rest of your like to look back on your huge accomplishment and feel proud, but for now just take care of yourself. Your parents sound amazing and you are lucky to have somewhere to go, so enjoy your short time with them, and you’ll be back being your independent self when you’re ready =D

All the best!!

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