- 4 years ago
New poster here. Just got engaged over the holidays, which was a total (awesome!) surprise.
Also a surprise: that the avg. wedding cost was $27,000!!! Yikes.
It is possible to throw a nice wedding for, like, WAY less than that? Like, 10,000? Is that number driven up by bridezillas with monogrammed everything and handmade invitations and stretch Hummer limos? Or is that just how it is?
The weddings I have been to for the most part have been kind of boring and stuffy (same overcooked chicken, soft-rock slow jams with cheesy DJ, etc.) and I can’t beleive how expensive they must have been!
I’d be tempted to elope, but I happen to be marrying a woman, and I think a “traditional” wedding will help my family get their heads around us as a “real” married couple. People have fought so hard for us to be able to get married, so I feel like we should do it!
Some ideas I’ve come up with:
Rent some good speakers and a mic and have an iPod as the DJ–no cheesy music or cheesy DJ, just designate one of our hammier friends to announce the wedding party and bouquet tosses, etc.
Have a friend officiate (it costs $500 to have someone say a few words?!??) & obviously we aren’t having a church wedding
I’m really not into the sit-down dinner, at all. I want the night to be about the dancing, fun, etc. and it’s never that good. My family and hers are pretty low-maintenence. Italian food buffet? Finger foods throughout the night? I’d really rather not spend a bunch on food, but we’ve got to feed people.
Secondhand dresses, for sure
Skip the limo ride
I would like to spend on a good photographer, a pretty, unstuffy location (indoors, this will be Massachusetts in April), and want to get professional hair and makeup for both brides and both sets of bridesmaids (2 brides with 3 bridesmaids each, for a total of 8 ladies needing to be coiffed)
I’m also pretty set on a Saturday evening reception, and will end up with about 75 guests (my immediate family alone is 35 people, so it’s pretty inflexible).
What do you think?
Update: This will be western MA (Northampton area) so as not to drag our families all over the world (we currently live in Seattle but are moving to Ireland in the near future, just for an extra foil…)
So, 2 dress gay wedding (more traditional style than crunchy-granola style) in western MA.
Thanks for all your advice so far!!