- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017 - Preservation Park, Oakland CA
I am about one month into wedding planning and I am already sitting here stressing and crying. This whole experience has proved to be much more involved than I ever expected. For some background, my fiance proposed last month and I have never been into the idea of having a wedding. However after he proposed and everyone was so excited for us and for our future wedding that I suddenly got caught up in the idea and the planning and experience etc. My parents both passed away when I was young so I do not have them to help me with any of the planning and paying. Our budget is very small, and I am starting to think there is no possible way we can afford a wedding outside of a very very small city hall wedding.
I really don’t know what I was thinking but I didn’t think about all the things we would need to arrange and pay for. Venue, catering, drinks, parking, photos, DJ, attire….for the cheapest options we are still looking at way way over our budget. Not to mention I had no idea the time drain all the planning would be. I already have a very demanding job and work schedule that leaves me very little free time so to add all this planning in is almost enough to send me over the edge. Our budget does not allow for hiring a wedding planner so it’s not an option to have someone else do the leg work. I didnt realize how difficult it would be to do this without the help of parents but each day I seem to understand that more and more. We got so excited that we’ve already been telling everyone the date we were thinking and our plans for a semi-small ceremony then a big reception and now I’m thinking I want to forget it all and just do a VERY small city hall ceremony and dinner with family afterwards. Thats it.
As I’m sitting here stressing I am thinking, is this how the whole next year is going to be if I continue on the planning path I’m already on? Me constantly stressed about money and time and arrangements? I’m still in the very early stages of the planning and wondering is this normal to feel? Should I stick it out and hope it all works out for the best or let everyone know sooner than later that we may just do something super tiny? If anyone has had experience with feeling this way while planning, trying to plan on a really small budget, or other people who are planning/have planned a wedding without the help of any parents, I would really like to hear your input because I want to find a way to make this all work but I’m feeling completely overwhelmed.