Post # 1
So, ladies, this afternoon I sat down and made a day-by-day list of activities and what needs to be done for each day that I am in my hometown before wedding (we are getting married in my hometown, where my parents live, but we live 3,000 miles away). We are arriving in town late on a Wednesday night, getting married on Sunday evening (with a rehearsal dinner and welcome activity on Saturday and brunch on Monday), then leaving on our honeymoon on Tuesday. That means that I will have all day Thursday and Friday and Saturday morning to get things done. My list is looking really overwhelming and I admit that I am starting to get a bit stressed. Any newly maried bees have any advice or timelines they can share that helped them get through the process??? At this point, I know it will all work out, but – damn, that list is daunting!
Post # 3
Our to-do list is on Google Docs, so we can both edit it. My mom can also view it, and as we get closer, I’ll add my Maid/Matron of Honor and a few others on for viewing as well.
I have the following columns: Task (each task line is highlighted in light blue, one of our wedding colors, hahaha), Subtask (several subtasks under each task), Date Added, Date Finished, Whose (responsibility, that is. His, mine, both, mom’s, etc.), Priority (High, Medium, Low, Optional, Finished – and this is how I organize them, High Priority is at the top of the list, Finished tasks are at the bottom), Notes
It really helps us. 🙂
You could do something similar, maybe as a timeline, and share it with everyone who will be helping out that weekend? You could also do printed timelines for all your helpers. 🙂
Post # 4
Hey date twin! So, what does your to-do list entail? Maybe we could offer advice on specific action items?
Post # 5
Each time I look over my to-do list I end up adding something. It can be pretty overwhelming!
Post # 6
@BostonBridetoBe – yay date twins!
Just to follow up, it’s not so much the actual tasks (I know people will help, and I know I can get it all done, but the list is just. so. long.). I am hoping you ladies might have some suggestions for how you got through/are planning on getting through the lead-up days… major delegating? super organization? lots of booze? temper tantrums? (kidding)
My problem is that I am kind of a control freak, so I want to make sure everything is the way I imagine it (admitting you have a problem is the first step), and that I am feeling a little bit like I had all these great, crafty ideas of how to put a personal stamp on my wedding, and – for one reason or another – they all kind of fell off the wagon, so I want to make sure that I am getting to have some ownership over things like the Out of Town bags and flowers.
Post # 7
@septcabride: Hmmm… my strategy has been delegating and genuinely letting go of the task (and perfection). I’m a perfectionist, but I’ve really accepted that no wedding is perfect. So, when I decide to delegate things, I make sure it’s to a responsible person… and then I just consider it done. Well, maybe it’s in the back of my mind and I’ll check in, but I feel like I’ve *let go.* For example, my Future Mother-In-Law and her wife are doing the Out of Town bags totally on their own. Originally, I wanted to help (because it’s fun, and because I wanted to have a hand in it), but to reduce my stress I totally just let it all go. I simply trust that we’ve delegated to them for a good reason — they’ll enjoy doing it and will do a good job!
Oh, can you delegate some of the oversight to your FI? I’ve given pretty much everything music-related to my Fiance, and he’s doing a wonderful job keeping on top of the band, his step-brother who’s arranging our preceremony music. It’s a great way to reduce stress (giving projects to another person you trust)!
Post # 8
Ha! My FH is also totally responsible for the music, but he is a major procrastinator (read: has not started yet), so that is not really helping my stress level.