Post # 1
I’ve had more than I can take this week and just need to know that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel somewhere. The week started when my grandmother told me that she won’t be attending my shower, wedding, etc.:
Also, my Mom really hasn’t participated in any of the planning process. When we first got engaged, she kept offering suggestions that were the opposite of what we had in mind, and then would be critical of our vision. I’ve asked her a few times to lay off the snarky comments, but things came to a head last night. I have an unusually shaped ering, so we’re supposed to have a meeting with a jeweler who does custom work tomorrow to design a wedding band. Mom made a bunch of comments about how that’s a waste of money and I called her out on it and it was a scene. Then, this afternoon, Fiance called and told me to cancel the ring design meeting because he wants to play flag football. AARRRGGG! So I cancelled the meeting we waited 6 weeks to get, but I’m pissed! Why do all of these things happen at once? Fiance has gone to all of the planning meetings with me, but I feel like he should have been responsible for finding a designer for the ring. Isn’t the wedding band supposed to be a gift from him? So, why am I doing the work for it (except that I want it to turn out nicely)?
We’re still 3 months away. Does it get better between now and then?
Post # 3
I’m within 2 months and can tell you…..for me, um no. It will get worse before it gets better….or you just give in to the crap, say F it, and elope. Or stop caring. (I’m almost at that last part!)
Post # 4
@Ms. Kitty: Yes, it does get better!!! Your other board is surprisingly like my life. Let me tell you, we got married two months ago and life has been good ever since. Promise!
Post # 5
Did you send the letter yet?
Post # 6
Wow you’re super nice, FLAG FOOTBALL!! ooohhhh helllllll no! lol. My Fiance knows better than that, he’d NEVER hear the end of it.
I do differ in that I don’t really fell the wedding ring is the man’s resposibility, for me, its going to be something my Fiance and I do together.
I really hope things work out for you, I read the post about your grandma, but either way try to relax its YOUR (and your FI’s) day in the end.
Post # 7
@WillyNilly: i wrote the letter, but haven’t sent it. I felt a little better after I wrote it, but there are some pretty ugly things in there and I’m not sure that sending it is the best thing to do. At this point I think just being silent on the matter may convey my message.
Post # 8
Ya, I can understand that. It’s her loss, honey. She’s just being silly. I can see her point but this isn’t the way to get you two together.