Post # 1
Anyone who can provide any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!!
I got engaged back in mid-July and have basically done nothing! Why, you may ask? A few reasons:
1. Location! My entire family lives in PA/NJ area, while my FI’s majority of his family lives in Nebraska. We both live in CA. Where we live is 2 hrs away from a major airport and there isn’t much to do out here. Soooo, where should we have the wedding?? Back in PA where my parents are? Here in CA (five hours away from us, but we can drive there and check places out)? A destination?
2. Another issue is our budget. We are trying to stay within a $10K to $15K MAX budget. This means we have to make cuts, but I am not sure where!
3. I am concerned that if the wedding is a place where ppl will need to fly to (CA or Destination) that I won’t have hardly any family show up.
4. Timing is another issue: I am a teacher and need to plan the wedding for my breaks, most likely summer.
Post # 3
It will be okay! Take it one thing at a time and hang in there. I would try this. Sit down with Fiance one night and say something like “I want to start planning for the wedding. Can we talk a little about _______”. Start of with when. If you know you want summer because of work, sit down with a calander and start looking at weekends. Mark off any major holidays, or conflicts that you want to avoid and pick 3-4 dates that work for you.
Next talk about location. It sounds like someone is going to have to fly no matter what so don’t kill yourself about it. Is it doable for you and Fiance to take the time from work to fly to someplace a few days ahead of time, set up the wedding, have the wedding and honeymoon? Are you comfortable booking a wedding from far away, and relying on internet and phone to set up things you may not be able to see in person until right before the wedding? Will it work better if you are at home? Would it be easier for you to plan and set up if you can drive to check out venues, caterers etc? This should give you an idea of where to look for venues.
Finally start calling venues- see who has your dates available, and what their prices are. You’re budget definitly sounds like it could work. I find its easier to have an idea of its going to cost ____/person so we can invite _____ before you make a guest list, then to make a guest list and realize that you have to cut soooo many people because you can’t afford it.
Once you’ve got some ideas going post again here, bees have tons of ideas to save money but it depends on what kind of event you want.
Post # 4
I’m going to say it’s probably going to be cheaper to have the wedding not in CA. But first I would talk to your fiance about where you want to have it and then probably have a conversation with both of your parents about travel and location. I know it’s ultimately your decision on location but you might be able to get an idea of who is more willing or able to travel (as far as extended family and friends) from talking to your families. Also would either location make a big difference in guest count, CA probably but what would the difference be like numbers wise if you had it near his family vs. near your family? Because depending on venue and budget you may want the lower guest count.
Post # 5
Omg. This is my personality with a lot in my life!!! Is it just wedding stuff or other things? I only get motivated if I’m really hooked into something so when I don’t do it’s b/c I’m unsure. I get past it by making lists & taking baby steps.