Post # 1
My shower is this Sunday and 3 of my BMs and their mom’s (my aunt and my “second mom”) came over tonight to make sure everybody was on track. I didn’t do any planning, so I just sat there. They would all ask me what I wanted and if this idea is ok and what about doing this? I’m getting to the point where I am so overwhelmed with all this attention and I’m finding out that I really don’t like it!
Then, my sweet Maid/Matron of Honor (my cousin) asked if we are doing any games besides the timer during opening gifts. I said I thought the game of “what’s in your purse?” was cute and my other Bridesmaid or Best Man said she loves that game and that we should play that. My mom quickly vetoed it because she “never brings her purse to a shower.” I said that I thought it was a good idea, as did my BMs, but no…mom still says NO.
The whole planning get-together was stressful and overwhelming and as the shower is getting closer, the more I’m dreading being the center of attention. In my family, you invite not only aunts and cousins, but 2nd cousins and great aunts and other relatives that I don’t know, but we still have to invite them because that’s how the family works.
So, how did/do you deal with all of the unwanted attention?
Post # 3
I think the main thing you need to remember is that everyone is happy for you. they are there because they are proud of you and happy to be sharing this amazing time with you.
I know it’s tough. Maybe quietly say to a Bridesmaid or Best Man you can trust, let her know how you feel and ask her if she can keep things going if you need to excuse yourself for a little bit.
I understand your concerns but on the day you’ll probably be having that much fun you won’t realise you’re the centre 🙂
Embrace it! When you have kids it will all be about them lol x
Post # 4
@rangersbride: Great advice! Maybe ask your closest friends/cousin to try to keep things rolling if it looks like you’re too flustered with all the attention.
As a side note, I know exactly how you feel. I HATE being the centre of attention, but even worse, I am paranoid that I LOOK like love being the centre of attention and am craving it, when I’m not. Yikes!
Post # 5
I dreaded my shower because I was afraid it would be embarassing and I didnt want to be the center of uncessary attention. Well, I have to say that my shower was one of my favorite wedding memories! All the people I love were there and we had such fun.
My best advice is to relax and remember that you will only ever have one shower, one bachelorette party and one wedding. I was cringing inside coming down the asile because all eyes were on me, but it’s the only time I will get to do it. Just remember that everyone is there because they LOVE you.
Post # 7
I haven’t ha my bridal shower yet, but during my baby shower, would start to feel overwhelmed. One thing I wold do is just excuse myself to the restroom. After a few minutes, I would feel less anxious and reemerge.
If I was talking to someone and the covo was becoming strained, I would simply ask them if they needed something to drink, and say I was thirsty. Usually, people will say no, you can excuse yourself and get a drink. Find someone else to talk to for a few minutes.
At the end of my baby shower, I realized that while I didn’t spend a great deal of time with any one guest, I was able to talk individually to each of them, and I am happy I did.