- 2 years ago
ladymarian : First of all, I am sorry for your loss. And I’m glad to see from your update that you guys are working out a compromise. To answer your question, many weddings I’ve been to recently have still featured a father/daughter and mother/son dance as well as the couple’s first dance. Although IMO there is nothing wrong with omitting them and plenty of people do.
TBH I think some of the bees have been a bit harsh on you. Losing a parent is one of the most difficult things a person can go through in life, especially around the time of your wedding when you had imagined having that person there with you. It is your and your FI’s wedding day and if having a staged mother-son dance is going to have you in tears missing your father, IMO that is something Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law should be willing to compromise on. If something happened to FI’s mom and my first dance with my dad would cause him grief, I would absolutely omit the dance if necessary to avoid making things harder on him.
It doesn’t sound like your Future Mother-In-Law was intending to hurt you, more that she was just excited that she found a song for the mother-son dance. However, IMO she could have been more sensitive and asked your Fiance if you guys were planning to do the dances and let him know that she had a suggestion for the song if so.