- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Oh man, I feel bad. My baby shower was yesterday. I wanted a really casual event that was easy for my new-mom friend to plan, so she just did an evite last month, which I thought was great!
I chose not to put people on the email that I knew couldn’t attend, like relatives out of state, except for my Mother-In-Law. I knew she, specifically, would want the invitation. To me, it felt “gift grabby” to send it to a bunch of people who would not be able to attend. Plus, it would mean lots of extra people for my friend to keep track of.
Anyway, I mentioned to my Mother-In-Law she should share the information about the shower/registry with any relatives she thought would like to have the information. I felt tacky sending an email to a bunch of relatives with a link to my registry…especially since some of them are on hard times. However, I apparently wasn’t very clear about that because it didn’t happen as I have come to find out.
My poor SIL, who is a wonderful person, was shocked to hear about my shower coming up when Mother-In-Law mentioned it offhand on a recent visit with her. I guess they went on a panicked shopping trip to the local mall to buy baby gifts and FedEx them here for the shower, and my Mother-In-Law got all spun up and called my friend who planned the shower to ask why SIL wasn’t on the invite.
I’ve smoothed things over with SIL, but just a word of caution to all of you planning bees to be extra clear about how you ask relatives to help! I think I should have sent my Mother-In-Law some specific names of people and asked her could she please share the information…or just found some graceful way to send an email myself. Ugh, I wish I’d managed this one a bit better…now I just hope my Mother-In-Law doesn’t get wind that I thought she was going to tell relatives about the baby info, because she’ll email or call me in a major fit of guilt and I’ll have to reassure her that I don’t hate her. Fingers crossed!