Post # 1
So I need some advise. I have a 3 1/2 month old that I absolutely adore, but could enjoy a bit more if I could sleep for larger chunks of time. She goes through spurts where she will sleep the entire night, or only wake up once, but since the New Year she has had a few issues.
We put her to bed around 8pm, most of the time without her paci. She will then wake up at 12:30, 1:30 and then 3. We feed her at three, and at the other times let her cry for about 5 minutes and then go in and give her the pacifier. I would love tips to get her to self soothe yet again.
She maybe teething I’m not sure but she is a happy baby for the most part. THanks for your help!
Post # 3
@carriejuly: Probably teething. Pacifiers can be a pain in the butt but also help with teething because it gives her the massaging comfort on her gums. My daughter did the same.
Post # 4
@carriejuly: 3 1/2 months is really early in the self-soothing spectrum so she may just not be ready. Just because she is in the age range of being able to self soothe doesn’t mean she is ready too, just like any other milestone……. If I remember correctly though I think it’s 6 months that the self-soothing concept is really able to be graped. Especially if she’s teething.
Have you checked out the wonder weeks too? They’ve been spot on for Dirty Delete & times she has more interrupted sleep.
We’re going on 9 months and it’s only been in the last 6 weeks or so that Dirty Delete has really been self soothing for naptime & since around 3 months when we started putting her down on her own at night. We still do night wakings and co-bedding though so no advice on the wakings. (Non-CIO home).
Best advice is just to take her lead…. check the wonder weeks & just know that this stage doesn’t last forever. 😉
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@runsyellowlites: Thank you for your compliment! If there is any question about our book and app The Wonder Weeks, please feel free to ask here or at our FB wall. And.. as you know we do not tell people how to rise their child, but.. we have one very strong opinion: a child doesn’t cry without any reason and therefor it needs to be comforted. So, we are most definate also non CIO’s. Sorry for my English, I’m Dutch.
Post # 6
@carriejuly: I’m not a mom yet, (due in June), but have worked with kids and have formal training in child development.
Most babies go through a bit of a growth spurt right around 4 months, so your baby might be experiencing this spurt a little early. IT might have nothing to do with self soothing, but she might be more hungry!
I’m not sure if you’re BFing or formula, etc but you might want to try supplimenting with formula for the last feeding a night, which might help her sleep a little longer. Or you might want to try some infant cereal at night too. Just something to try (ie: dont flame me for suggesting ceral so early!)
Another thing to try might be extending her bedtime a bit. Is she really tired/goes right to sleep at 8 when you put her down? Maybe trying keeping her up till 8:30-9 (as long as she’s not getting over tired) and see if that changes her wake pattern at night.
Again, not a mom, so take this all with a grain of salt! 🙂