Post # 1
I am a korean american marrying an african american and would really like to have paebeak at my wedding.
But I have no idea how the proceeding goes, or what his parents are supposed to do or say.
Basically… I have no idea about how it’s supposed to go.
Post # 3
And how can I encorporate it into whole wedding? I know it’ll be after the american ceremony, but how do I have a transition into the korean ceremony? Is there supposed to be music? or will it be done in silence?
Post # 4
I’m an American living in Korea so I know a little about it. This ceremony usually takes place after a western style wedding these days, during the reception. I would try to keep it casual since you’re FI’s family isn’t Korean.
Usually, the bride bows to the parents, then gives them chestnuts and dates. Next, the bride and groom will offer the parents wine. After, the parents offer the bride and groom wine. The parents take this time to give you their blessing or some advice. Lastly, the parents throw the dates and chestnuts back at the bride. She tries to catch them in her skirt. The number that the bride catches represents the children she will have. The number of chestnuts represents the boys and the dates represent girls.
(Also, it’s romanized as pyebaek, just in case you’re having trouble finding information.)
Let me know if you have more questions!
Post # 5
Nowadays in Korea, we do the traditional wedding in WHITE and then Pae Baek is followed after the main wedding. But Pae Baek normally only includes the family/relatives not the guests.
YOu can do the same deal but include your guests. 😀
You can do a modernaized version of the original Pae Baek, which takes a LOT of preparation and custom-wise very difficult on the bride. Or you can just bow to both parents and have dates thrown into your skirt and do that sweet photo-short version. If you want proper full details, PM me for with questions. 🙂 In my family every single cousin etc have done the whole traditional 9 yard deal~ so let me know LOL
Good luck! Sounds like fun
Post # 6
@kimmykim23: OP are you still around? Do you live somewhere with a Korean community? Most places with a community have stores that rent you everything you need for the paebaek, including helpers and an MC to walk you through it and your outfits.