paebaek question (Korean American wedding)

posted 6 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Um, I’m not Korean per se, but my Fiance is and we’re doing a Paebaek. I think we’ll probably be renting all of the supplies from a company in VA that has a heavy Korean population. From what I understand, the bride and groom wear the traditional wedding hanbok:

Do you have an area nearby where you could maybe look for guidance?

I’m not sure if it matters who all is in attendance, but this is kind of important, shouldn’t all the parents be present?

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Where do you live?  We’re doing a Paebaek ceremony, and we found a Korean catering company that specializes in them.  For $400, they supply the whole setup:  The backdrop, the tables, floor cushions, the robes, headress, EVERYTHING.  You wear your regular hanbok underneath, and these ones go over them.  They provide everything you need, and they even MC the whole thing to walk you through the steps, and to involve the guests that want to participate.  All the food on the tables are basically fake, just for decoration.  The only actual food involved in the Paebaek are the dates and chestnuts, which are part of the ceremony as you probably know.  If you are in So Cal, I can give you our vendor’s info.  

It’s fun to have both sides of the family there, but if just the groom’s side is there, that’s fine since that’s the way it was traditionally done.  Modern ceremonies usually involve everyone, but that’s up to you.  PM me if you need any help, I can give you the ceremony outline, etc that the vendor gave me if you need ideas.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Got ur PM, I’m writing u back πŸ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

KimmyKim23: I’m sorry your family isn’t taking the whole inter racial thing very well.  My Fiance is black too and it was rough in the beginning but it’s gotten much better. πŸ™‚  He’s been going to Korean school (which I give him mad props for since I remember hating giving up my saturday mornings/friday nights to go to Korean school when I was little :P) and I think it’s helping my parents soften up to him.

I was planning on incorporating korean elements into my wedding as well but wasn’t sure if I wanted to go all out and do PaeBaek (especially since it’s traditionally done with just the groom side and from what I hear it’s pretty pricey).  I’m in Seattle so will you please keep me posted on what you find?  I’m doing a trip down to california this June with the Fiance and we thought maybe we would just buy some Hanbok and wear it at the reception instead of doing PaeBaek.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Almost every state has a Korean-town or an area that is LIKE Korean town. There’s always these local Korean newspapers/mags that have all these yellow page for Korean locals deal… You should be able to find places that do Pae Baek food and location for it etc.. πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We had the same issue with our wedding in August. We ended up finding a company that Rents everything involved in the Paebaek ceremony. Go to seattlekoreanweddings.com they have all the rental items you might need in the Seattle area. They are a mother/daughter team that had the same issue finding rentals so they opened this rental company! 

They are great! 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

kimmykim23:  It really depends on where you live I think, I live in LA where there is a large Korean community and I’ve been able to book almost all Korean vendors and rented my dress from a Korean place. There are also a ton of Korean hanbok places that rent and do ceremonial things, and the one place I remember quoted $700 for renting all the stuff for the paebaek including delivery/setup. It’s about $150 at the lowest to typucally rent a hanbok and that includes alternations though it can go up and you can also buy one custom made. 

Also I understand the paebaek ceremony alone typically takes at least an hour with all the changing and ceremonies, a lot of people I knew who did it did it the day before or with the rehearsal dinner or something like that. I would maybe consider doing a geese exchange? It could be incorporated quickly into the wedding ceremony if you wanted. Hope that helped! 

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