(Closed) Paid for Flower Girl dress mother making rude demand

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7385 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Are you going to call her out on it? Thats really rude. Because if you don’t check her, lord knows what else she’ll try to pull. You teach people how to treat you. The sheer nerve. WTH.

Post # 4
228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Were you planning on getting it done before the snarky text?

Post # 5
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What is the exact text she sent you? So much can be read into the tone of text messages because there are no other cues. I would talk to her first before making any upset decisions.

And if you do decide not to have her hair done, I’d just say, “Oh, little girls look so cute just with their hair done/in a ponytail/whatever, we won’t be having the girls’ hair professionally done. If you want to do something different though, you are welcome to.”

It’s really not worth causing drama over, it will only make your life worse.

Post # 6
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe you should call the FG’s Mom.  Sometimes things get lost in translation thru text.  I would say something like.. I got this odd text from you demanding we  get FG’s hair done…….. and see what she says. If she’s as nasty on the phone as in text then be gracious and say of course we would just LUV to get her hair done on the day of … it will cost you $xx.xx. 

I really hope it got lost in translation.

Post # 9
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Thats so rude! Some people have no manners! I wouldnt say no to her just because of the way she asked you

Post # 11
1399 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@fuentesbee:  People are ruuuuuuuude. I bought my flower girl’s dresses. I ordered them from the states, because clothes here (Central America) tend to be ugly, bad quality, and expensive. I bought nice dresses and gave them to the girls. One mother was like, FLIPPING OUT and running around whispering about how it was “too big.” It was SLIGHTLY LOOSE, as in, not skin tight. And even though MAMA dresses like a hooch, that wasn’t what I had in mind for the 10-year-old. No thank you, no what a nice dress, not even a complaint to me. Just running around whispering and complaining to everyone else that it was “too big.” Like you, I probably would have offered to have gone to the seemstress and ask about having it taken in if she had politely said “I think it’s a little big” or “Could you have this adjusted?” … but instead she was a bitch. lol. The mother of the other Flower Girl was LOVELY and went on and on about how beautiful the dress was, how much she loved the fabric and design, etc. 

Anyway, I totally agree with you. Tell her it’s not in your budget and she doesn’t need to do anything special with her hair- she can wear it however she likes.

Post # 13
8177 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@fuentesbee:  Can you type out exactly what the text said for us? I can’t even imagine, honestly. And how old is this flower girl?

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