(Closed) painful sex

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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8882 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Sorry you’re dealing with this.  I’m sure you’ve heard “Relax” before, but it is a major key.  Spend a lot of time kissing and whatever it takes to get you very turned on. Try watching something naughty with your Fiance, maybe that will help.  Wait until you are so turned on you can’t wait anymore – and take it slow.

Good luck!

 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I understand what you are going through. Sex is painful for me too. I have been dealing with it for 5 years and started dating my husband 5 1/2 years ago, so its been most of our relationship. For years they associated it with ovarian cysts and I was on BC that didn’t help at all. I have been off BC for about 6 months and went to a different doctor. I am in the processing of getting tests done so hopefully we can figure it out.

Also about a month ago I went to the hospital because I was having constant cramps for 3 weeks straight. After a bunch of tests they said I have Pelvic inflammatory disease and put me on a bunch of antibiotics. Once I was done with the medicine I met with my doctor and she said she doesn’t really believe I had that as you usually get it from an std, which I have never had. She believes I may have endometriosis. I go to talk about my results next wed.

Have you looked up your symptoms?

Post # 5
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Research vaginismus and vuvlodynia. Fiance and I had a healthy sex life for 2+ years and all of a sudden it became painful, to the point of it being impossible.

We did not have intercourse for almost 3 years, but after seeing a pelvic floor therapist, working with dilators, and learning to flex and relax the muscles we are finally sexual again. Sometimes pain is still there, but it is much less and is only experienced during the initial penetration. I may have to use dilators forever though :/

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am curious to why this is the only birth control you can be on. I myself suffered from excruciating period (Like stay home from work/school period) and I have never had a doctor tell me I could only be on one birth control. (actually I did, but I ditched him so fast.)

What sort of pain is it? Is it like he is hitting your cervix, or pain because you’re too dry? Is it a sort of clenching pain or is it more muscular?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@kmarie719:  May I ask where/how you found a PF therapist?

Post # 10
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752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@love108:  I found her just by luck, searching painful intercourse, then vulvodynia, dyspareunia, etc, and luckily I lived in a state with a very successful therapist.

I would just try searching for pelvic floor (physical) therapists. You can do some of the work yourself with Kegels and purchasing a set of dilators if you can’t find one local to you, but I think the recovery is faster if you find someone.

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