(Closed) Painful

posted 5 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I had a similar problem with my now ex. No pain for the first 4 years and then it hurt so bad. I told my obgyn and she gave me a prescription to a numbing cream you apply before intercourse. I never tried it because my ex and I separated shortly after that. I did stop taking birth control (nuvaring) and was off it for 6 months while we were separating, and now there is no pain with my current SO. I know hormonal birth control can thin the lining in there? I switched to an IUD and still have no pain Anymore. So just a thought! 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

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@teacherwedding  it totally could be it! I was on nuvaring for 8 years and had no pain or problems until year 6. I think my body just needed a break from it. Good luck! Pain is such a libido killer!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

im confused. you’ve been having sex for 2.5 years and your hymen is still intact?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

It’s called vulvadynia. Seek out an OBGYN specialist to help you work through it. You can try a numbing cream. You can also get physical therapy for it. Council info from sex therapist too. I didn’t need treatment like above but an educated in this problem. I had a similar problem of burning and stinging 24/7 after multiple couse treatments for BV. I was prescribed nyogen by the specialist and it went away. It totally went away off of birth control pills. I also stopped vitamins and my daily allergy Meds. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I’m seconding the thought that it might be your birth control. I was on nuvaring for years and using condoms but always experienced pain. I kind of thought it was the condoms, again, lube was not the problem. Went off the nuvaring and now use spermicide and condoms and everything is great, no pain.

A word of caution though, if you go off hormonal birth control your risk of blood clots is greatly increased if you later try to go back on them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

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@teacherwedding Yikes! That sounds like something that needs to be removed?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

It might not be vulvodynia. Vulvodynia is a persistent pain of the vulva. It could be vaginusmus, pain associated with penetration. It could be something to do with your thick hymen. Whatever it is, it’s not normal and it definitely isn’t something you should have to endure or just put up with. Go and get yourself checked out, and get a treatment plan. Good luck.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@BubblesandCupcakes  I second vaginismus. OP look this up and mention it to your Dr. I suffered from this for 5+ years not knowing what it was and too embarrassed to talk to my doctor about it.

I’m not saying that that’s what you have but its something to consider.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

Pain during sex is also a symptom of endometriosis. I’d look up the other symptoms and see if you have any others.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

This is something you absolutely have to get taken care of.  Before you know it, you won’t be having sex at all, and that can be crippling to a marriage.  Sex isn’t supposed to hurt, maybe a little the first time, but, after that, NO, NOT.

If your hymen is still intact, or just slightly perforated and you have had that verified why aren’t they recommending minor surgery, a hymenectomy.  Go back to your doctor, and insist that something be done, you can’t continue like that.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

There is also a condition called fissuring of the posterior fourchette. Just throwing that out there with all the other possibilities mentioned here. Keep seeing your doc to get an answer. 

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