(Closed) Pale Bride – Contemplating Tanning/Not Tanning-Advice Welcome!

posted 5 years ago in Beauty
Post # 2
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m super pale as well, and I have a horrible farmers tan that I need to even out before the wedding. I am first going to try Santorini Sun Organics sunless tanning lotion, I’ve heard REALLY good things about it. Every sunless tanner I’ve used has turned me oompa-loompa orange, and according to the reviews I’ve read, this won’t do that. So I’m excited to give it a try.

Post # 3
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Hiii. welcome to the bee πŸ™‚

have you ever tanned before? does your skin tan? or just burn? I am pretty pale naturally, but I tan very easily so i usually maintain a pretty tanned look….

I would suggest pregaming a little, start off in super short increments. I am a big fan of tanning beds (bad, i know), but really they work wonders if you know how to use them properly.

I would highly suggest not doing the sunless tanner stuff, it will rub off onto your dress, ruin your sheets, and comes off in weird streaky ways. nothing more unattractive than a blotchy orange streaky girl at the beach haha.

If you really are worried about the whole cancer thing, then just do nothing. You look beautiful in your engagement photos….But you probably will get annoyed on your honeymoon with all the sunscreen… no matter how much you put on, you probably will burn anyways….

Post # 4
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

aprilanne147:  I’ve contemplated this as well. I’m a natural redhead and very pale. Fiance is naturally darker and tans like CRAZY. I will look like an albino next to him on our wedding day (and every other day for that matter LOL). I think I’m just gonna leave my skin as is–I’m not going to tan and I would be pissed if fake tanner rubbed off on my dress! Luckily we’re getting married in March so he won’t be super tan πŸ˜›

Post # 5
2815 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think your skin is beautiful, but as a fellow pale blonde girl, I get what you’re saying!

I never tan, but did so for my wedding, and I am glad I did. My dermatologist gave me a really hard time about it, but told me so long as I avoided the beds after my wedding, I would be ok.

I went for just over a month, about 1-2 times per week for no more than 7 minutes at a time. I wasn’t super tanned for my wedding, but it was just enough to give me a little colour and bring out my freckles, which I like πŸ™‚

I’m personally not a fan of fake tanners, because I’m allergic to the smell of the chemicals in them…and honestly, I don’t believe they are any more safe than laying in a tanning bed for a few sessions.

I think the whole base-tan concept isn’t factual, so make sure on your honeymoon, that you still use lots of lotion (which you plan on anyway!).


Good luck!

Post # 6
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

aprilanne147:  Embrace the pale.  If that is what you normally look like why would you want to be orange, I mean tan for your wedding?  Being pale means you take care of your skin by staying out of the sun and wearing sunblock when necessary.  If you are taking care of your skin then it also means you are less likely to deal with skin cancer when you’re older.

I live in Florida and I constantly have co-workers and family members getting skin cancer cut off of them and let me tell you that it’s not pretty when they cut a fist sized chunk of skin out of your back or use acid to burn a little bit off your nose.  I wear sunblock, a coverup, a hat and sunglasses when I go out in the sun so I am one of the palest Floridians you will ever see.  When it came to my wedding, even though it was on a beach, I still rocked my pale skin because that’s me.

Post # 7
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

aprilanne147:  You have really beautiful skin! I too have very light skin. I did not tan i nthe beds or spray tan before the wedding. About four days out I started using St. Tropez Everyday Body Moisturizer Gradual Tan. It’s pricey, about forty dollars for the bottle. It is nice because you can use it more linerally like a lotion and it gives in my opinion more of a glow than anything. I was pleased with the results. You can see some of my pictures on my profile. Hope this helps.

Post # 8
2602 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Don’t tan. Use sunblock on your trip.

Post # 9
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m a redhead, so pale is my life’s story! I had thought about spray tanning for the wedding, but two things stop me from doing it. 1) I didn’t want to not look like myself on my wedding day. 2) that stuff always rubs off and I didn’t want orange/brown stain on my dress.

I did however, use a little bit of Jergens Natural Glow in medium which gave me just a touch of color that I felt comfortable with so that I wasn’t the same shade of white as my dress! lol!

Post # 10
2512 posts
Sugar bee


aprilanne147:  I have been going through the same contemplations. I am very fair, light brown hair (sometimes dark red hehe) and I’ve just come to realize that is ME and that is what I look like. This pale girl is the one my Fiance asked to marry him and this girl is the one he should see at the alter. Not some made up fake tanned person just to look good for pictures.

I keep thinking about how wearing white would wash me out, and I’m not thrilled with Ivory dresses or any other color. So it’s been a struggle but ultimately I’ve decided I will not tan.

Also the “base tan” thing isn’t true. Use lots of sunscreen and embrace your paleness. You have wonderful skin, and you shouldn’t damage it or alter it

Post # 11
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014


aprilanne147:  I think your complexion is beautiful. I vote no tanning! As a fellow pale bride, I have embraced my paleness, and thanks to consistent sunscreen use, have yet to see any wrinkles (I am in my 30s.)  

Post # 12
3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

aprilanne147:  I say embrace your natural coloring!  You look lovely pale – and honestly, I think pale people look much better pale than when they try to force the tan (and I know from firsthand experience – I’m a redhead who went through a period in my teenage years where I desperately wanted to be tan).  Especially if you’re usually pale, don’t you want to look like yourself for your wedding?  Plus, the health risks of tanning to me outweight any “benefit” to pre-tanning for your honeymoon.  Just get a good quality high SPF sunblock and remember the key words – “reapply often.”

Post # 13
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m just as pale as you… I vacation in HOT climates regularly… and sunscreen does me fine.

The ‘base tan’ thing is a myth. People with our skin tone don’t get base tans!

I think you should just embrace the pale. Don’t try to be something you’re not.

I didn’t tan for my wedding.. I never have done a spray tan, etc. I do get a little color on holiday (when I wear SPF 60 lol). I think it usually looks pretty silly to get an obvious tan (bottle or otherwise) when you’re naturally very pale.

Post # 15
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My deramtologist got a spray tan for her wedding and said it worked out great. It was done by hand with a technician, not a booth. Very natural looking and when I expressed concern about it rubbing off she said it didn’t happen to her. I’m doing a trial run for my bridal shower next month. They also recommend getting it done 2 days prior to your event (at least where I’m going).

Post # 14
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I’m another pale bride, and I embraced it on my wedding day. I wanted to look like a stunning version of “me”, and “me” has pale skin. 

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