Post # 1
I’m a very, very pale bride to be! The wedding is in 27 days, EEK!!!
I want a little color for my wedding, but not too much — anyone who knows me would suspect anything past a normal beige. I definitely can’t tan in a bed, airbrush spray tanning made me nervous because of transfer (it’s also pretty expensive, and the process sounds annoying), and I’m nervous about streaks with lotions… What’s a pale bride to do?
I found these on Sephora and the reviews sound great. The price is amazing on Amazon right now, too. http://www.amazon.com/Dr-Dennis-Gross-Skincare-Alpha/dp/B004MPZLVC/ref=cm_cr_pr_pdt_img_top?ie=UTF8
I like this Before/After a lot.
Does anyone have experience with these, or tan towels in general?
Post # 2
Yes… I had a nightmare with them. Used them for an event and ended up totally splotchy (as there’s no dependable way to see exactly how even you are applying). Scrubbed my skin raw the day of the event to get it off, and was unsuccessful. Ended up having to wear pants because my legs were so unnaturally splotchy. Def leave it in the hands of a pro, or use a gradual tanning lotion like Jergens the week leading up to the wedding. It will give you a nice glow. Just start using it now (and then stop when you get to the proper shade), so you know how many days it takes to get to your desired color.
Post # 3
Yikes, good to know! Thanks!
So Jergens actually works? I’ve tried something similar, and I looked like a tiger.
Post # 4
I have not tried that brand, but have used Tan Towels before with great success. They’re like a big wet nap.
I used to use Jergens, and the smell of it has changed over time that now I can’t use it anymore. It did work for awhile, but the last time I used it… I didn’t see much of a change on an everyday use. But, if they still sell the accelerated kind – that did work but you have to be careful putting on to avoid streaks/missed areas. I’d exfoliate first!
Post # 5
Sounds like a recipe for disaster. I’ve tried tanning lotions, and ended up splotchy and got it on clothes, hair – everywhere! Is there any chance you can get some natural sun, between now and your wedding?
Post # 6
I have heard about St tropez self tanners getting good reviews but to be honest i wouldnt dare to put on any self tanners for my wedding. I did that for my high school prom and my legs were kind of orange looking, not natural at all. <br /><br />I would rather use bronzer on my face and then buy some tinted body lotion from Victoria Secret and cover my arms and chest giving a bit of color.
Post # 7
If possible and within your budget I would highly recommend a spray tan from a certified professional. The level of customization is huge and it looks great. I LOVED it for my wedding/bridal shower/bachelorette. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m a fair bride too (I don’t like word pale – I associate it with something lesser – e.g. “you look pale!” when you’re sick, it “pales in comparisson”). lol I digress.
Own up to who you are! You don’t want to be unregonizable on your wedding day. Plus, you’re not getting married in the heat of summer so you’re not a beachy bride either. And I would never want to risk my health in tanning beds or even looking blotchy on my wedding day. I imagine that’s hard to edit out in photos! Plus you’ll be sweating… you wouldn’t want it to stain your dress either! No matter how “gradual” lotions are, they’ll still smell and stain. Not a risk worth taking in my opinion. I’m sure you’re most beautiful as-is 🙂
Post # 9
When is your wedding? I have friends who use the Mystic Tan at tanning salons and it honestly looked so good. You can try it out once before your wedding to see if you like it. Also, I’m very fair (as in 1st or 2nd lightest shade in foundations) and I use the Vita Liberata self tanner and love it. You can apply it 2 days before your wedding so you’ll still have great color but the smell and color guard will be completely gone and you won’t experience any transfer. I don’t see any transfer after the first time washing but if you start to sweat the smell can come back, which is why I say to do it 2 days before to prevent that. It’s pretty fool proof to use if you get the mitt with it and watch a couple YouTube videos first to learn some tips and tricks. I use it just about every week and only had a problem with streaking when I applied it drunk lol. (btw, you apply it at night, sleep with it on, and shower the next morning but don’t use washcloth or loofa to wash)
Post # 10
Okay, I totally understand how you feel. I have never met anyone as pale as myself (‘milk bottle’, ‘you glow in the sun’, ‘see through’ etc). Infact one halloween I dressed up as a ghost and everyone complimented how well I’d done to make my face look so white- they didn’t know that I just had no foundation on- SIGH! For my wedding I’m going to embrace being pale! I think tanning is just one more thing i’d stress about.
As a teen I used to try to tan as much as possible, but seriously, there were very few products I found to work on me. The instant rub on tans in a bottle worked best but would come off as soon as water touched the skin so I wouldn’t recommend it on a day youre wearing a white dress! Otherwise I also had some success with tinted moisturisers! They were good because 1.they don’t smell half as bad as fake tan and 2.you can put on a very small layer at night, see how it looks in the morning and apply more if necessary. That way it builds up slowly.
I personally agree with kristen182 that we pale girls should just accept what we are and own it! That said, if you decide to do it yourself I still recommend tinted moisturiser, make sure to exfoliate really well first and always use a mitt to apply. Its better to put not enough on, then to put too much on and regret it so I would put it on the day before or 2 days before so you can reapply if necessary. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 11
Thanks for the responses bees! This is such a tricky problem, gah!
Kacie209 That’s great to know! I’ve heard so many good thing about tan towels and not as many horror stories as the lotions, spray tan, etc. so I really wanted to give it a shot.
PABride I don’t tan, at all, ever. 🙁 The only way I can get color is if I get a truly terrible, painful sunburn, and then it slowly fades into a tan.
loveofmylifemay2015 Yeah, I’m also pretty nervous. I think it’ll be okay if I practice 3 or 4 times before the big day to get the technique down perfectly. Does the tinted moisturizer transfer at all? (i.e. onto sheets, clothing)
springbride23 I was strongly considering an airbrush spray tan. Budget isn’t too big of a problem. I am nervous that I don’t live in the city of my wedding, so I’d have to go somewhere for the first time the week of my wedding. If I sweat a lot, is this a recipe for disaster? I do LOVE the before/afters for that. It can be subtle but still noticaeble.
kristen182 You’re very sweet, thank you! 🙂 I normally am pretty proud of my fair Snow White aesthetic. Truthfully, I mainly want to do this (1) to make my less-than-perfect upper body look slimmer, and (2) to cover up lots of scars from bug bites, skin problems, etc. I feel like I normally photograph well, but my engagement photos made me look like a ghost! And for my makeup trial, my skin was the color of my teeth! (And I whiten them!) I don’t know, I feel like a subtle glow will help a lot. I’m DEFINITELY not doing tanning beds or anything like that. The reason I’ve been asking about tan towels is because (unlike spray tans and lotions) it dries instantly — you can even do it before bed, and sleep on white sheets!
IzzyBear I’ll check it out! Thanks! The wedding is October 12. Eek, so close!
Post # 12
KateA17 HAHA! I know how you feel. Fair brides unite!
I think I’m going to try one or two self tanning methods in the next week or two… If they completely backfire, I’ll have time to fade back to my normal look. (2 weeks should be more than enough time to return, right?) My natural fair skin really isn’t a bad option as a backup, so I won’t be upset either way.
It would be nice to have some color in my limbs, though. Especially at the rehearsal dinner — mine will be a pretty fancy affair, and I have this beautiful dress that will show my bug bite scar laden legs.
Thanks for the support though <3 Self love is very important, and I’ve thankfully been much more confident over time.
Post # 13
shlobin: if anything, go to a tanning salon and get the Mystic tan (in “light”) like this weekend. Worse comes to worst, you hate it but it’s only a random week. If you love it, then go again about 2-3 before your wedding depending on how it fades during your trial run. Like I said, a couple of my friends got it a coupe weeks ago and it looked really good. I was surprised because there are so many bad reviews on Mystic. Just make sure to exfoiliate and shave before going, wear loose clothes, and have clean skin.
Post # 14
I can’t emphasize this enough: do a spray tan from a professional. They’ll make sure you don’t miss any spots/have even colour/no running. It’s way too hit or miss to do it yourself, especially as a novice.
I use lotions every summer, all summer (and have for years), so I’d consider mysel pretty knowledgeable on self-tanning, and for big events I still go to a professional. It will last longer, and it might run a big if you sweat excessively, but it won’t be running down your face. You might just get a bit of runoff say under your armpits. Maybe.
Doing it yourself has wayyy too big of a margin for error!
Post # 15
It does transfer if you dont take a shower after using the product. I put it on before going to a party and then take a shower before going to bed and it works really good. I doesnt give you a really intense color but maybe 1 shade darker. I like the natural look.