(Closed) Panic Attack at 3 am (long, sorry in advance)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
525 posts
Busy bee

First of all breathe… Panic attacks are horrible. I know exactly what you went through 🙁

Second, I think it’s important to realise that nearly ALL brides will have a moment of panic because there is a huge amount of pressure to make it perfect. Writing it out seemed to help you so maybe start carrying a little notebook with you so that you can write down your feelings when you start to get panicky, it will also stop you from feeling like you might forget a brilliant idea etc which is something I always worry about.

I would also talk to your family and Fiance about how you are feeling, is there anything they can take care of for you?

With the photography issue, I would suggest giving them both a call and asking if it woud be possible to have a cheaper package since you don’t want them for so long, might not work but it’s worth a try.

I think maybe you should also decide what your priorities are.. pick your top 2/3 things that are important to you and focus on them (i.e. for me personally, photography is more important than a guest book so I would spend the $100-200 on photos and maybe make my own guestbook or come up with a cheaper alternative.

Good luck! xx

Post # 4
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I hope you’re feeling better this morning. I woke up in the middle of the night worrying before my wedding too. It will pass.

Why don’t you post pics of dresses and people here can suggest cheaper alternatives. Also try consignment shops – I had the exact same requirements as you, love Vera Wang dresses, and wanted silk – I got my dress for $900, which may not be in your budget, but was <25% of retail. (It’s for sale too if you’re small – aline, french lace, silk organza, by Christos 🙂

Have you seen the “guest book” tree posters for fingerprints – $35 on etsy.

For cheap photography look for a student on craigslist. For slightly more pro photography find someone who is just starting out and was a second shooter for a great photographer.

Post # 5
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our photographer actually came an hour before the ceremony was supposed to start, so they could get pictures or the rings, the dress hanging up, us girls getting ready, and all that stuff.  Plus the family portraits after the ceremony took a good half hour.  So all told, the ceremony photographer can probably count on 3 hours including set-up and take-down time.

If your ceremony and reception are on the same day, then I would say just hire the same photographer and work the mileage into the contract; maybe they’ll charge you $100 extra or something.  Our venues were 30 miles apart, plus we made a small detour for some outdoor photos, plus the photographer drove in from another city, and he didn’t charge us anything extra.

This post has some neat guest book alternatives:

Unique Guestbook Alternatives?


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