- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Here I am, about 3 weeks out from our wedding, and our officiant is being sketchy.
She was a referral from friends of ours who got married this past June. They had nothing but positive things to say about her, so we were confident when we booked her. She was expensive too
Shortly thereafter, she sends out a email saying that she is taking down her website as she is no longer taking in any new clients; she plans to finish the weddings she has already booked and then close up her business. That email worried me a little, but she sounded assuring that she will uphold her commitments.
Fast forward to summer. I sent her periodic emails of “hey, do you need anything from us to get going on the ceremony?” which were (slowly) answered with promises of “I’ll have a draft to you by xdate,” which she never delivered on.
After much follow up and prodding, I finally got a draft of our ceremony script from her on Sept. 3rd. This draft was very basic, and copied from our friends wedding back in June. In this same email, she tells me that she’s going through a divorce, is in the process of moving out-of-state, and is busy homeschooling her kids. I write back to her with my additions/corrections to the ceremony script the next day… and NOTHING.
I’ve sent follow up emails to confirm her receipt. Nothing. It’s been over a week.
So she’s clearly mentally done with her officiating business, she’s preoccupied with personal sh*t, and I am clearly her lowest priority (despite the fact that we have already paid her 50%). This makes me question her reliability of showing up that day as well as her moral for officiating a marriage, since she clearly doesn’t want to do this.
So now I am scrambling to see if there is another officiant available for our date, time and place that I can replace her with… so I can write back to her and say, “you know what, you sound way to preoccupied with your personal life to officiant my wedding. If you want to refund my deposit you can be off the hook for this and focus on what you need to do.”