Post # 1
im getting married in 27 days (!) and we have filled out a ton of paperwork
its a DW, and the chapel doesnt have a priest attached so we had to invite a local priest to come to do the ceremony
he accepted a few months ago…and then nothing. he doesnt reply to emails, he doesnt pick up the phone. im honestly starting to wonder fi hes still alive (but apparently he is or i assume the church would mention it on their webpage)
im not bombarding him with questions, i just want to know whether he can have a full mass (as its a mixed marriage, but i don’t mind my fi taking communion and i dont see it as divisive) and a few little questions. Also, whether we will meet him on the day or before the wedding. little things. he had already said in terms of readings etc we should sort it out with our local priest so im not asking him about those kind of aspects
We have done a ton of paperwork – permission from the bishop for fi to marry non catholic, permission to marry in a different parish etc etc. we did say he’d be marrying us, but i dont know how to find out whether at this late stage we can try to contact the other priest. Its a very late wedding (6pm) so it shouldnt clash with other weddings as theyre normally earlier
Post # 3
Is your FI the non-Catholic? It doesn’t matter if you “don’t mind” your FI taking communion … from a Catholic perspective, that is VERY offensive and even sacriligious. If he does not believe in it, then he should not receive it. (sorry if I misinterpreted and you are actually the non-Catholic one.)
Post # 4
@red_rose: +1 If you’re not catholic then you should’t receive communion fullstop! The priest can do a blessing so that the non-catholic doesn’t feel left out.
@newname_99: You mention paperwork in the title of your thread? Do you know if he has filled out the appropriate documents (in Australia, you need to register a document stating your intention to marry).
6pm is a very late wedding. Have you checked that there isn’t a Saturday night mass? Most priests know eachother- I would call up the other local priest and explain the situation and ask for his guidance.
Post # 5
@red_rose: oh no, its me who is the non catholic. my meaning was that sometimes its considered divisive if only one of the pair can take communion as it highlights difference at a time when the focus should be on unity so its better not to have it at all. I know that i can’t take it, but given that its important to him and his family i’m not against having a full mass so they can/ but this is dependent on the priest apparently, some priests will do it some wont
also, logistically, whether there is a full mass or not is going to affect the ceremony length, and therefore transport and reception start time
the intent to marry form, i believe is the one that we filled out and then it got posted on his parish church notice board for a few weeks so people could see it and raise any objections if they had them/ but paperwork wise according to our church we’re all good
it is very late timing wise but at his church there is another priest (a mexican one) who does the saturday mass, so there is no conflict with timing and his schedule. And our chapel is allowed to have catholic ceremonies but doesnt have regular mass so its always free
thats a good idea actually, it didn’t occur to me to speak to the other priest since he’s at a different church
oh i dont know. here in mexico things seem much more last minute (we’re having a DW in mexico, but we already live here, just in a different state). Fi is mexican and all relaxed about it and doesnt feel stressed at all about not having things finalised less than a month before the wedding. im english and i find it far more stressful!!!
Post # 6
Yes, my first though when I read your original post was, “27 days? Yeah, your priest totally isn’t thinking about your wedding yet, if you guys are in Mexico.”
Now, I think I remember from reading some of your other posts that the priest who will be marrying you is actually not Mexican, right, but an American (English speaker) in Mexico, because you wanted a bilingual priest?
Even so, though, you are a ways out yet and it’s not that surprising that the priest hasn’t emailed you back yet. Maddening, yes, I understand, but not terribly surprising. I’m sure it will come together just fine – it’s just that it’s still a ways off on his radar.
Post # 7
@KCKnd2: Yes he is American but he’s been in mexico a very long time
You’re right, 27 days is still a way off though it doesn’t seem like it to me! Im sure he has several weddings before mine to focus on. Im just dying to have all the arrangements in place and the priest is just one of a million things still pending!!