(Closed) Paralyzed by the smallest decisions

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

haha i am having the exact same problem!  before i began planning i knew that save the dates and invitations were not high on my list of priorities or concerns.  i knew that didn’t care and yet….I CAN’T MAKE A DECISION.  it’s been the worst part of planning so far!  i look at different samples until my eyes hurt and nothing speaks to me and i still know that i really shouldn’t and don’t care!!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I haven’t had it happen with wedding stuff, but I have had it happen before. I always want to make the decision that is best for the most people, and sometimes that means agonizing over something as simple as where to go for dinner.

You’re not alone! When it happens to me it’s usually a sign that I need to take some time for myself– no people, no decisions, just relxation– and that seems to help it subside.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ahh, wedding stress and perfectionism. I think we all have it. I’ve redesigned my save the dates about 12 times. I’ve ordered two sets. And now I have to order another because we changed the date… so it’s kind of crazy the lengths I’m going to, just to say “hey, show up on this day!”

But in the end, I have to be satisfied with it, too, so I think that’s a big part of why we all go so crazy!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You could employ the “two weeks notice” method.  Which one tasted better?

I honestly haven’t gotten that far into planning so I can’t sympathize.  I’m sure you’re not alone however!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I took 3 hours to decide on how to word the date on the invitation – made no decision, realized I was a loon and sent a couple emails to english major type friends who straightened me out. 

You’re not alone, maybe just get confirmation from people if you aren’t confidant in wedding decisions.  Weddingbee is a great place to do this since family tends to all have a different opinion and then be offended if you don’t take their advice but if you do, pick just one or two friends or family so you’re not overwhelmed with opinions.

Good luck!  What envelopes are you deciding on?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Haha I totally understand. I’m trying to put off making a lot of decisions in case I change my mind later. Isn’t it funny that brides-to-be who have committed their entire lives to someone are unable to commit to things like a color palette or invitation design?

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

oh i had the envelope problem too. they have such pretty ones out there. finally i realized i just don’t have it in our budget for pretty envelopes, after literally hours of staring at them, hello, it’s just going to be throw away! i decided on paper bag envelopes. cheap and good for the environment.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

well, you at least got it narrowed down to 2.  If you have to for these little decisions, copy and paste both pictures you like in word. Page break, and make a little chart – Option 1, Option 2.  Keep this page separate.  Take the first page with photos to trusted friends and say “which do you like better?” and tally up the responses on the second page.  Cap the # of people you ask.  Use the fan favorite as your answer.  If you have a twinge in your gut that you want to keep asking around, I think that the one YOU truly wanted is the other.  Does that make sense?  You’ll get annoyed with yourself and having to ask and eventually make the decisions quickly on your own. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I totally feel the same way! The less significant the decision, the tougher it seems to be. For example, I really don’t feel strongly about whether we have a string trio or a harp/violin duo play at our ceremony. I could think about it all day long, and it still just wouldn’t matter that much to me. But I cannot, for the life of me, just suck it up and decide on one or the other!

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