Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
This makes me sound totally crazy…but I could use a little reassurance!
These last few years I have had this insane fear that I will miscarry or have still births. I have read the statistics, and am aware of how low the risks are. Because I am on the pill (for now) testing my fertility is out of the question…but just because I can GET pregnant, doesn’t mean I will stay pregnant anyways. Has anyone else ever had these fears? Did anyone who has miscarriages or still births have these strong feelings beforehand, like their gut was telling you something about the future? Is there legitimately a corelation between gut feelings and future happenings? Or am I just bent out of shape over nothing?
Post # 2
I think this is a totally normal and common fear hon. Pregnancy would be a lot more fun (…still not fun but more fun) if it weren’t for constant fear of miscarriage. Don’t sweat it, if every woman who feared her ability to conceive and carry a child was seeing into her future the human race would’ve died off a long time ago. Hugs!
Post # 3
I also think that it’s normal. I have always had this fear. Sometimes I had dreams in which I miscarry. My husband and I were NTNP and we actually had a early miscarriage/chemical pregnancy. I was about 5 and half weeks, so not sure which it was. I thought that it would kind of paralyze me with fear for trying. But it made us stronger as a couple, and when we do conceive again I know we will be emotionally ready. I think it’s a normal fear for women! If the fear is preventing you from wanting to try then maybe it’d be a good idea to talk to someone (maybe a counselor), but just look around at how many people get pregnant 🙂 I’m sorry you are having anxiety, just know its normal!
Post # 4
Omg! Ever since our wedding in April, that’s what I’ve been thinking. I have a long list of medical problems though and expect to get the door shut my face by every doctor but surprisingly they’re all like “nope – no issue go-ahead”. I’m so worried that I’ll finally get a positive or many but never actually have a child. It’s a wierd thought but glad to know others think it too!
Post # 5
I’ve had two miscarriages. They suck. But they are part of life and something you get over. There’s literally nothing you can do to prevent them, so you just need to try and get over it. There’s not an ultrasound that I’m not petrified of, but having gone through them, it sucks, but it isn’t a forever suck. It’s just a bump along the road. An unhealthy fetus that wouldn’t have survived. I know that’s rambling, but I feel like it helps me to keep it in perspective. Miscarriages suck, but they are short term set backs.
It’s totally normal to have this fear, just don’t let it ruin a pregnancy. Worrying is normal, but knowing the worst case is not an end all, be all helped me.
Post # 6
I think a lot of people have a hard time with situations that they can’t control and TTC and pregnancy are definitely things that you can’t control! The way I look at it – worrying about it isn’t going to help anything and just makes you more stressed, which can actually just make everything more difficult. So try not to go down the rabbit hole. If you find your thoughts getting caught in the downward spiral of worry, recognize what’s happening and that the worry isn’t helpful. Tell yourself and you’re not going to worry about it and that things will be fine and then try to distract yourself. Pregnancy is a long 9 months and you don’t want to be stressed out that whole time! So, while I think these fears are very common – try not to give in to them!