Post # 16
I am going to defend my husband since you seem to have the wrong perception about him.
I hate the idea of my abuse history ruling my life. I choose to try to get past my sexual issues of my own volition. That is why I post on WeddingBee in this section.
My husband is the most considerate and caring lover I have ever had. That is part of the reason I married him, so there is no need for your heart to ache for me. I hate pity…especially when there is no need for it. I believe that in order for a married couple to have a good life together, compromise is certainly needed and that includes the bedroom. My husband will do anything to please me in bed, so I don’t see why I cannot meet him halfway. It is natural for a man to want to ejaculate inside his wife. I also think that it is very touching that he wants me so badly that he doesn’t even want to wait a few minutes for me to clean up.
My husband has said that he won’t cum inside me if I don’t like it. However, I don’t think that is fixing the problem at all. My therapist has recommended gradual exposure and we are doing well with that. Perhaps you should read my update on the semen aversion thread..it doesn’t seem like you have.
Marriage has helped me see how pervasive my emotional intimacy issues are. No other man cared very much about helping me open my heart. My husband tries to help me enjoy life more by being playful and trusting.
Thanks for taking the time to give me your advice. I appreciate it.
Post # 17
I can bet that you smell/taste just fine. When my SO and I had first started dating, he tried putting his hands on me several times, and I pushed him away several times(we had already been sleeping together) and he was so confused to why I was rejeting him. I eventually told him that I wasn’t shaved and I was more than stubbly. He goes “….Is that it??” I was flabbergasted. Every other man I had been with would be in awe if I had more than stubble down below. Over 4 years later and he doesnt care. I do, but he doesnt. I still joke that he gained points for that. That he went down on a man on a camping trip, lol
Post # 18
What a sweet story!
My man prefers me completely bald but a little bit of stubble or hair isn’t going to deter him.
Post # 19
Different men will react to your pheromones differently. Thankfully your husband seems to appreciate yours!
Post # 20
I think you just have to work to put it out of your mind, in the moment. If you find yourself stressing about smell while you’re getting hot and heavy, try to put those thoughts aside. Tell yourself that he loves you and lvoes the way you smell and you’re not going to worry about it. Then focus on how amazing he’s making you feel. Narate in your head, if that helps, but keep it all sexy and positive! I definitely think it’s related to your douchebag ex, but it’ll get better with time and positive experience!
Post # 21
If he goes right for it. He doesn’t mind. At all.
If he cared he would wait for you to shower, because he knows you prefer that.
If he’s that gung ho, I would imagine he likes it.
To be honest, I like going down on my man just as much when he gets home from work as when he’s fresh out of the shower. Maybe even more, cause he tastes like him and not like Old Spice Hawkridge body wash. Which smells delightful, but loses something in the taste department.
Post # 22
It’s amazing the kind of people we choose when we are young and naive. My ex was a douchebag in so many ways. I must have been drunk when we met. I loved your suggestions. I still try to shoo my husband away when I think I smell, but he just gently nudges my fears away with loving words and touches.
I don’t know why the pheromones smell gross to me….
Not to be too graphic, but I like the way my husband smells when he hasn’t just showered.