Post # 1
With all of the baby stuff happening around me I’ve gotten this sense of anxiety that when it comes time to TTC (sometime in early 2014) that Darling Husband and I will have trouble. Lots of people around us having babies & some mild pressure from the in-laws to start trying is making me a crazy lady…
It took my mom ages (and lots of dr visits) to have me (first child) but then she conceived my brothers (twins) no problem.
My question is this: if my gyno were to notice anything concerning during my regular exams, they would typically tell me, right? Does my mom’s preg. history affect my abilities?
I really don’t have any grounds for this anxiety but I often see so many bees that are jumping through hoops to get a BFP, that I can’t help but think about the what-if’s…
I don’t have my yearly until the end of Nov. and i’m hoping to squash some of these (irrational) fears before hand!– I’ll definitely talk to my doctor at that time as well.
Post # 3
Your doctor would tell you about any major problems – bad paps, feeling cysts on your ovaries, etc. But they probably wont do much until you are actively TTC for 6 months without getting pregnant.
Post # 4
I kept stressing that it would take forever to conceive because of what everyone kept telling me.
We conceived first try.
Don’t stress, chart your days correctly and it will all work out. Even if it doesn’t happen immediatly it will happen
Post # 5
I don’t think your mom’s history is directly related to you. My mom had 3 miscarriages before she had me, and I was born a month early and weighed only 4 pounds. I, on the other hand, got pregnant with a sticky baby the first time Darling Husband didn’t pull out, and we weren’t even trying. I think it’s just the luck of the draw.
Post # 6
thanks ladies– just needed some reasurrance that i am, in fact, working myself up for something that i dont even know the outcome of.
baby fever is in full swing but won’t start NTNP until December/ Jan time- I currently track my period on an app (even though I’m on BCP) just to get into the swing of things and trying to more consciously take daily vitamins (so I am ready for pre-natals when ttc)
i know it’ll happen when it happens, so i just hope for smooth sailing until its time.
Post # 7
@marzipanda: This was my experience as well.
My mother had trouble conceiving me (second child), but I was moreso concerned that my weight and menstrual issues would cause problems. We got knocked up on our first try. Good luck to you, OP!
Post # 8
I went through that a few months ago. My mom and sister have both had multiple miscarriages and my mom had trouble conceiving at all. We aren’t trying until nov, but I started charting to keep track of what my body was doing. It helps me feel reassured that everything is “normal” and has taken away a lot of the fear that I will never conceive.
Post # 9
@OldMrsMcDonald: thanks for helping reassure me. i can’t wait for when its time to start, but we’ve got a lot on our plates right now having just moved into our 1st house– so we’ll get there in time!
Post # 10
it took my parents a year to conceive me and my husband and I were successful our first try. I wouldn’t worry 🙂
Post # 11
@Mrs.H2B: thank you so much!! Darling Husband thinks im a crazy lady since we’re not actively TTC yet (still on BCP) and he has assured me that he has “super sperm” that will get the job done. *face palm*
Post # 12
Another bee chiming in that I also had worries I would have issues. I have so many friends who suffer from infertility. My family has a history of early menopause so I got my AMH levels tested and they came back very low (1.4ng/ml), so I was worried that I would have issues. Got preggo the first time and am currently 13 weeks.
Post # 13
Oh man, I know exactly how you feel. We are both super ready for kiddos, but are waiting to TTC until we buy a house – we’re on about the same timeline as you, actually. Our 1 year wedding ann. is coming up, but it’s our 8th year together so we’re definitely ready, and waiting is hard, and we are receiving pressure from all of our friends and family since we have been together for so long. However, my mom, aunt, and grandma all have terrible, awful pregnancy histories and I have a lot of the same physical issues that my mother has, so I am super stressed and worried about having problems and I get irritated when people ask about it becuase what if when we are trying, it doesn’t work? I realize that this is irrational but I can’t help myself.
You’re not alone!
Post # 14
@blondie_bride: i had my annual in august. a year ago gyn found fibroids. she told me right away and sent me for an ultrasound. best thing for me to do was get pregnant ASAP but i wasn’t engaged yet. surgery was a possibility but last resort. gyn sent me to a specialist. now i am less than a month away from TTC. because of my situation, gyn said have fun the first three months and if I don’t have a BFP then we will look into the next steps.
so relax and enjoy, stress will only make it worse.
ETA: i am 32.
Post # 15
@blondie_bride: My husband says this too. How could you POSSIBLY know that you have super sperm?! Do they wear capes? Swimming caps to increase speed?
Post # 16
@emelee: hahahaha swimming caps. lord only knows what goes thru those boys’ heads!
@TheHoneyWajr: yep, EXACT same thing over here- dated for 7 years before getting married last july, just had our 1 yr wed anni (8th yr together..) so we’re ready.. but we just moved into a new house w/ lots of projects planned/ in the works so we want those out of the way beforehand. — gotta love worrying about something that has yet to happen. Glad to know i’m not the only one tho!
@ajillity81: im looking forward to the “having fun” part of it all, and i hope that it stays fun as long as we have to try =)
@awakemysoul: thanks!! glad to know that my worries aren’t totally from left field, and congrats on your bump!!