Damn…. The deleted emails sound fishy. He’s obviously talking to her via email if he’s deleteing them. I dunno… This all sounds bad to me. Honestly, I don’t know what I would do.
Whoever said to call the brother and ask for her though, is a genius. I would do that. And if he says, “SHe’s not here”. Just be like, “Oh… Okay. Do you have any clue where she could be, I had something really important to talk to her about.” And see what he says. Then just ask for her number. You can then look at the phone records and see how often he speaks to her through calls and texts.
I am one for personal boundaries. I hate that people say, “Once you’re married, you give up any kind of secracy. Your phone should be open.” Because, no that’s not true. I deserve privacy. I have a journal I write in. By that logic, my husband should be allowed to read it? No, because that’s where I go at the end of the day, to write down my feelings bad or good. If I told my husband EVERYTHING on my mind, he would probably hate me, and vise versa. I’m sure many of you have had unpleasent thoughts, too. Humans aren’t perfect. If my husband was going through my phone everyday, for no reason, I would think HE is the one that is up to something. Guilt reflects. How do I know? Because I”ve been in relationships like that. And when I found out my husband was doing things behind my back, how do I catch him? Because he was guilt tripping me about other guys, when I had nothing to do with other guys. He would be like, “Oh you liked this guy’s picture of facebook” When it’s clearly a picture of someone’s business and what they do there. Or “Are you following guys on tumblr or insta?” And when he started going through my friends list and who I follow on all of my social media, I knew. I NEVER did anything or have done anything to break his trust. Therefore he SHOULD NOT have been going through my stuff, period. After that, I found out that he’s been doing everything he tried to blame me for. He felt guilty, and he was reflecting it on to me. Which is also what happened with my high school love. I was with him for four years. He went through EVERYTHING. Said I couldn’t have male friends, told me what I could and couldn’t wear, no make up, etc etc etc. And he cheated on me, probably the whole four years we were together. Privacy is a must in relationships, because there has to be TRUST.
However, in this person’s situation, I would be leaning towards snooping. It would be different if he didn’t show signs of cheating, but these signs even make my tummy turn. Just remember ladies, just because you’re married, it doesn’t mean you have to share EVERYTHING with your husband, because I can almost guaruntee he’s not sharing everything with you.