Post # 1
I have 2 sisters aged 8 and 11 years old. When they wake up in the morning they roll out of bed and dont make their bed, they bath together and they dont wash the bath tub afterwards and they dont wash their panties, they just pop them in the washing basket. My mother doesnt let them wash the tub because she has GAD and is worried that they might slip and fall into the tub while bending down washing it.
I believe children their age should atleast know how to make their beds, wash the bath tub and also wash their own underwear. I believe teaching them to be responsible is going to help them in the future.
At what age did you let your children wash the bath tub, or wash own underwear and make their own bed? What is the safest way to teach children how to wash the bath tub?
Post # 4
I think that is your mom’s call since they are her children.
Also, why wouldn’t their underwear get thrown into the washing machine with the rest of the laundry? And to be honest I don’t bother making my bed unless we have company coming over. I don’t think that is a big deal unless it bothers your mom or she wants to impose some discipline on them. I think these are weird details to fixate on.
Post # 5
We had to do certain chores, though not the ones you mentioned, when we were very young. For example, we’d have to help set and bus the table, help put away dishes, put our dirty laundry in a certain spot, and DEFINITELY clean up our toys. However, it’s not your job to teach the kids to do that…if their mom has specific reasons why they’re not allowed to do specific things, then that’s her decision.
Also why would they wash their own underwear?
Post # 6
Make their own bed 3 but don’t expect it to be perfect and don’t remake it. They really get hurt and give up in discouragement if they feel like what they did wasn’t good enough. You just learn to live with imperfection and praise them mightly! I do the bed up myself if it id being used as a temporary guest room.
Wash the undies- are you not washing them in the washer with the rest of the clothes? My kids use the washer starting at age 11. They help hang clothes on the clothesline ie handing me clothespins at age 18 months.
Clean the tub- well to be honest it has always been the man of the houses job to clean our tub as we desperately need to have it reglazed and it takes a lot of brute strength to get it very clean. Woot woot it is scheduled for reglazing this year after I finish tiling the bathroom! 😀 Since I assume this isn’t the problem at your parents home I think it is reasonable to have a child of 11 clean the tub if she is mature enough not to cause bleach stains over the rugs, curtains and towels. I would suggest comet and one of those blue tub scrubby things that are on a handle. Your parents may not allow them to clean the tub for the same reason I threw out all cleaning products containing bleach except comet. They get bleach stains on everything! Fiance has ruined so many of my pretty things in his enthusiasm to help clean that I threw it all away and check all grocery bags coming into our home. He is sneaky and tries to pull fast ones on me :p
Post # 7
Thank you for responses,
The reason im fixated on it is because when i was their age i was taught by her to wash the tub after bathing and also wash my underwear when i bath.
I guess its the way she brought me up so i find it weird that they are not doing those things. I just find it weird that they dont do anything instead of little responsible chores.
maybe i am clearly over reacting i dont know lol
I guess i have to live with that because it is her children and she can use what ever parenting style she so chooses and i have to respect that and respect her. I guess i can impose my own parenting styles on my children in future.
Post # 8
@secondchances: Thank you very much. Your response has been so helpful!!! I agree on the part not to expect perfection and not to expect too much but praise them with every effort.
Thank you very much
Post # 9
Growing up, I really only made the bed on weekends but I knew how. I didnt clean the bathroom until I had my own because my mother was very particular about that. Laundry however, is different. I started that the moment I could reach the bottom of the washer.
Post # 10
My daughter has chores, she’s 6. She has to make her bed every morning, put her own clothes away, take the dirty ones to the laundry, change her sheets once a week , set the table, help clear the table, keep her room and bathroom clean. And she cleans the toilets, but she gets paid for that one. That’s her favorite thing to do actually.