(Closed) parent gifts

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Could you just do photo albums? Here’s my background: My FI’s mom is throwing us a $800 rehearsal dinner and my parents are giving us a $4500 honeymoon….so…i’m going to do pictures. My parents will be annoyed if we spend a bunch on them after they gift us a vacation anyways, and FI’s mom, well, invited a ton of ppl to our wedding I think have no business being there. Are they throwing you a RD?

So, Shutterfly gifts it is! Future Sister-In-Law gave Future Mother-In-Law a 1 carat diamond pendant at her wedding 3 years ago. We’re not even going to try Especially after kerplunking 20K on our own wedding! 

I don’t blame you. I think there are plenty of affordable options. I think it’s nice if they help you out, but maybe they are just traditionalists? However "not having the money" isn’t valid if FSIL’s wedding got cacneled. 

Post # 4
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If she likes jewelry, you could get her a pretty cocktail ring for like $150. Then she could wear it to the wedding…or nice earrings or a pendant…but I wouldn’t go crazy. Maybe a coffe maker if Future Sister-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law like coffee? hmm

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

We are supposed to give gifts at the RD?  I had no idea.  My mom paid for my dress, and his parents are giving the Rehearsal Dinner…My dad is not paying anything, which makes me kind of sad, honestly.  How can I give our parents gifts, but leave my dad out?  Is this really a tradition, or is it outdated?  Also, his parents are not aware that my dad isn’t paying and I feel guilty and embarrassed to tell them.

 

Post # 7
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1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

we are having a Rehearsal Dinner that esesntially we probably will pay for. both our parents are paying for the money so paying for a small intimate Rehearsal Dinner (which I think will only be cocktail styled, not dinner) wont be an issue.

I think we will just be gifting out parents with an album, the albums we are looking at are about $1000 each so they’re pretty pricey.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Solo payor here also. My parent nor my fiances parents are paying for a single thing. It really upsets me when my dad always forks out money for my little brother for stupid things but has not offered to pay a single penny towards my wedding. To top it off my mom is complaining she does not have anything nice to wear for the wedding and is expecting me to pay for a dress for her..Grrr Like said above lets not even go there.  Our minister made the suggestion to give our parents thier gifts during the ceremony which we will then be giving them a small gift, nothing fancy. We are also not doing a Rehearsal Dinner well at least in a resturant setting. I am going to cook or get some food from a local cater to cut down costs. We still have a yr and our budget is already puking..lol gosh how the small things add up!!

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