Post # 1
Our parents (both sets) are primarily funding the wedding. We’re doing a little, but financially we’re pretty low on funds. They all know this and have said not to get them gifts for the traditional wedding parent gifts. But we feel bad not getting them anything at all because we love them and appreciate all they’ve done and are doing for us.
We thought about getting them a photo book of our engagement photos made. We also thought about getting them a card to tell them we’d be getting them a photo book of both engagement and wedding photos after the wedding photos come in.
Is this ok or what would you suggest doing for the parents who said not to get anything?
Post # 3
Photo books are nice gifts. You might also give them a card with a promise to visit them after the honeymoon and make them dinner. Time with both of you is probably more valuable to them than anything!
Post # 4
I’m in the same boat. I feel like his parents will be upset at us if we spend money on them, while my parents would be a little hurt if we didn’t make some kind of gesture to express our appreciation. I have some ideas of sentimental things I can do for my own parents, but I’m really stuck with the in-laws, especially since they asked us not to do anything.
Sorry that wasn’t helpful – just wanted to say this is a great question and I’m interested to see what responses you get!
Post # 5
Agreed! Most parents don’t need any “thing”. I think a photo book of both sets of photos (engagement and wedding) would be perfect! I also like the idea of making them dinner! Small things like that are what really makes a person feel loved and appreciated!
Post # 6
Same here – my parents don’t want us to get them anything, but we both really want to show our gratitude to them. We’ll be getting them a parents album but in addition, we want to get them tickets to a show as well as a dinner.