Post # 1
This may seem like a ratty question but… My fiance and I are paying for most of the wedding; my mom has contributed about $1000 and spent a lot of time helping me plan things, my Mother-In-Law hasn’t contributed any money for the wedding and hasn’t helped out much (which is understandable, since my fiance isn’t really helping plan to much either.. he’s mostly a ‘yes sweetie, i love everything you do’). Will it be rude if I get my mom a nicer gift than my MIL? I don’t want to offend anybody, but I feel like its the fair way to do it.
Post # 3
The assistance we got from either side was very different. We ended up taking both sets of parents out for a nice dinner. Our families are very compatible so this worked well and everyone is too easy going to have it be an issue.
But at the same time, if your future mother-in-law hasn’t helped at all (monetarily or otherwise) then why would you get her something?
Post # 4
We bought my mom a nicer gift and none of our parents are helping with the wedding. We just decided that since we are closer to my mom than his, she should get a nicer gift (his idea not mine) So I don’t think there is anything wrong with it.
Post # 5
Does your Mother-In-Law have to know about your mom’s prospective “nicer” gift? Either way, I don’t see a problems with it.