(Closed) Parent Problems?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@veryberry13:  You recommended counselling (which is the rational thing to do here) and told your mom that you love her unconditinally – I think you’ve pretty much done your part. If your parents want their marriage to implode becase of crazy drama then it’s up to them, I would just stay out of it. 

Post # 4
44 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

@veryberry13:  As someone who has been dealing with parental fights, drama (you name it), my best suggestion is: stay out of it. Seriously. Been there, done that. It’s not your fight and you should not get involved. Think of it this way, you love them both and you could end up picking sides (even if you don’t want to). They should learn to cope with each other by themselves. Recommend them counseling but no more. I know you’re probably frustrated, confused even distressed, but don’t talk with them about their problems. Hope this helps.

Post # 5
1274 posts
Bumble bee

Stay out of it. Not your battle. Lay down boundaries with both your parents to stop talking to you about their relationship problems. You have suggested counselling, which is the best suggestion you could have made. I hope they decide to hash things out with each other and take your suggestion for counselling.

As someone who has just watched her parents’ marriage of almost 30 years disintegrate into a messy separation and proceedings towards divorce, I seriously urge you to stay out of it for your own emotional wellbeing. Your parents need to grow up and speak to each other about their issues/flirting/new friendships. Not to their child (whether that child is 18 years old or 50 years old.) 

Post # 6
3751 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ugh my mom cheated. All you can do is STAY OUT OF IT. Trust me. For your own sanity. They have to deal with this between themselves. If you want to come out the other end with your relationship with both parents in tact, stay out of it. 

Post # 8
9538 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

WHAT!?! I’m not even sure I followed all of that. I’d stay out of it. You recommended counceling, which seems good. But beyond that I woudl let them sort it out. 

Post # 9
44 posts
  • Wedding: February 2014

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@veryberry13:  If you want more advice, I’d tell you not to listen to them, at all! As you said, tell them in a nice, polite way “I’m really sorry that you’re going through this, but like you said this is crossing boundaries, so please don’t share; I don’t need to know. We can talk about other stuff, just keep me out of this please, it’s not my fight.” and stick with it, they’ll eventually learn not to involve you and it’ll become (hopefully) easier for them to discuss their issues with each other 😉

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