(Closed) Parent situation.

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wasn’t allowed to sleep over or have a guy sleep over at my parents house when I still lived with them. Their house, their rules.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Since you live under your parents roof you should abide to their rules.  But only in their house, what you do outside of it is up to you. You’re an adult and can do what you want including having grown up sleepovers!  If they wont listen though you’re in a sticky situation, it sounds like they’re not ready for you to grow up so I think you’d be best to move out (be it your own place or your boyfriends)

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I live with my parents, and even thought I’m 25, I literally have to lie every time I stay over at his house. It’s extremely frustrating, but there’s absolutely no changing their mind. I can’t wait until we can afford to live together/get married.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Their house, their rules.

My Fiance and I are getting married in 3 months, and even now we wouldn’t dream of sleeping in the same room when we visit my parents.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

When I was living with my parents I would never stay over at FI’s. I knew they wouldn’t approve and just didn’t do it. One night though we were at his place and his car wouldn’t start so I couldn’t get home – think maybe 3am. I texted my parents to let them know. Next thing you know my dad calls me to say he’s picking me up. Ugh…

Fiance would occasionally stay over at my parent’s place – but would sleep on the couch in the living room. 

I think in most parents’ minds sleeping over = having sex and most parents are not exactly comfortable with the idea of their little girl having sex… 

 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have not been in this situation, my parents are very open and when I became an adult it became okay for us to sleepovers when we wanted them.  This said it is their house and it’s their rules.  But you are an adult can make the choice to move out.  Sit down with them and have a calm, adult conversation about this. Ask them why they are against it and then explain why you want to stay the night with your SO.  It won’t help to lie to them about it.  Have a good talk with them and then go from there, whether you move out, stay and stop your sleep overs, or you come to an agreement that works for all of you.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you want to be an adult and play by your own rules, you are going to have to pay your own way and get your own place.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

Are they telling you they are going to kick you out if you don’t stop?  Can’t you just keep doing it even though they prefer that you not do it?

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Question: are the sleepovers at his place or is he coming to your parents house? If you’re going to his, I think just keep doing it.  If he’s coming to yours, definitely stop.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have to agree, their house, their rules. I moved out of my mother’s house when I wanted to do whatever I wanted.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

My husband’s parents where the same way, he was in their house until we got married and they didn’t want either of us staying the night at each others house.  The way we figure it co-habilitation is a good thing, you begin to know the other person better as well as their habits which you may not be aware of until you marry.  That being said if you live in your parents house you should respect their wishes even if you don’t agree with them.  Once your out and on your own then you should be able to live as you wish.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

@MrsFuzzyFace:  

That shows a severe lack of respect for those whose roof you live under.  Until a person moves out they need to honor their parents wishes.

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