(Closed) Parent situation.

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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1809 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Peach_Cobbler:  Nuh uh. You’re giving her parents too many rights. I agree that she should just move out, but she isn’t their slave until she does. They have rules when she is under their roof, but if she’s a legal adult (and can survive if they DO kick her out for “disobedience”) she has every right to spend her nights where she wants.

Post # 19
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

@Asia:  Yuh huh.  Giving her parents too many rights??  It’s their house!  If she is going to live under their roof then she follows their rules.  It doesn’t matter if she’s legal, if she wants the freedom to do what she wants then she needs to move out.  Them not letting her or him sleep over is their right only until she leaves, the price of freedom isn’t alway free.  If she wants to wear the big panties then she can pay rent.

Post # 20
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1809 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Peach_Cobbler:  Nuh UHHHHHH! 🙁

While I wouldn’t do something my parents out and out disliked while I lived in their house, I think that I was a bit extreme.

 

I think she would be WAY out of line if she was trying to get her boyfriend into her parents house, but if she wants to hang out with friends (or her boyfriend) outside of her parents home, I feel like any “under my roof” rules should no longer apply.

 

But I do agree that if she and her parents are disagreeing on this, she needs to move. But then, I think most people who want to carry on adult, romantic relationships shouldn’t still be living rent free with their parents.

 

(ps- I love that you went along with my childishness. :D)

Post # 21
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1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Asia:  +1!!!!  I think you should respect her parents but they should also respect you as an adult.

Post # 22
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2811 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@Peach_Cobbler:  While I would be the first to agree that grown children should be respectful of their parents, it is extremely controling for them to presume to tell her how she can and can not live her life.  I am fairly conservative and would not be down with my daughter having sleepovers at her SO’s place, but I also recognize that she is an adult.  Letting your adult child stay with you is great, but if you can not extend that invitation to your child while allowing them to run their own life, you should end the living arrangement.

Post # 23
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

@Asia:  Yuh huuuuhhhhhhh   (I love being childish sometimes, makes life more fun)

It’s one thing to hang out with friends, it’s another to disrespect your parents wishes on sleeping together (spending the night) with a SO if you are still under their roof.  If she pays rent then she may have some wiggle room to negotiate but if she lives rent free then she needs to go ahead and abide by their wishes, I’ll agree on that.  If you’re really an adult then you can move out or pay rent to help them, if you just leech off them then you can’t really call yourself an adult.  😀

 

 

Post # 24
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215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

@MrsFuzzyFace:  I need to make it clear that while I don’t agree with it I believe they have the right to have their own law in their own home.  Personally I think people SHOULD live together before marriage, honestly if you have an idea as to how a person lives it won’t be such a shock when you marry and move in.  That being said, my argument is that they have every right to make the rules as long as she lives in their house.  If she doesn’t like their rules then she should go.  It’s really that simple.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Peach_Cobbler:  Yeah. I think we’re pretty much in agreement,t here

 

Like, I tihnk it would be best if her parents wouldn’t bother her about what she’s doing outside of their house, but its probably time to move out.

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