Parental Blessing – Yay or Nay?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Do you agree with the man asking the B2B's parents?
    Yes - purely for tradition's sake. : (5 votes)
    5 %
    Yes - out of respect/any other reason : (41 votes)
    41 %
    No - it's dated and I'm independent : (49 votes)
    49 %
    Other - state your vote : (6 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    7772 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    nicotinerush :  “The rest of my colleagues now aren’t talking to the girl who said this, and it’s been quite tense since.”

    Does this girl have a habit of making rude, inappropriate comments like that or was this a one-off? Her comment was totally uncalled for regardless of her stance on the subject, but this reaction from your colleagues seems OTT dramatic to me.

    If I were you I would not want to be caught up in this type of silly workplace drama so I’d be tempted to talk to the girl one on one and just hash it out with her. I would maybe say something like, “Thank you so much for asking me to be your bridesmaid – that is such an honor! There’s something that’s been weighing on me though that I need to talk to you about. Your comments the other night about my Fiance asking my parents’ blessing really embarrassed me. I understand you don’t like the tradition, but ranting about how my Fiance treats me like a ‘possession’ was uncalled for, especially in front of the whole group. It made me feel like you really don’t respect my relationship or me. Is that how you really feel?”

    And just give her a chance to respond. If she does anything other than apologize, I probaby would decline the offer to be her bridesmaid and just distance myself, albeit as undramatically as possible. No one’s got time for silly interpersonal workplace drama.

    Post # 62
    Member
    3049 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I don’t care what others do. It’s up to you and your reasons are your own.

    For me, personally, it’s a no. One aspect being that I do not feel I need their permission  and for a partner to seek someone else’s opinion first over me would be offensive. A blessing can be given after when announced by the both of us. Other aspect, neither of my parents deserved any input even if I consider it without the former in mind.

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