- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Naturally while getting married people keep asking about when we wanted to have babies, we’ve been telling everyone generic answers because we don’t want anyone to know when we’re actually trying.
However, my mother keeps making comments… but they’re not what I had expected. She keeps saying “you’re young” “in a few years when you start trying” etc etc.
We are/were planning on starting in a year of getting married. My sister-in-law is pregnant with her second child and my mom is so excited about it. I finally confronted her about her comments and told her I felt like she’d be disappointed if we happened to get pregnant early and her reply was “No I wouldn’t. You’re married so it would be fine”. Call me silly but I was hoping for a “You’re being ridiculous, of course I’ll be happy when you get pregnant”.
All of this has been going on for months with the confrontation occuring last night. For the record, we rent a 3 bedroom house, have 2 dogs, stable careers and I will be 28 in June and my husband will be 32, which I wouldn’t consider being young for starting to have children at all. It’s just very hurtful for her to be talking about getting excited while my brother and his wife were trying for their second and now so thrilled and proud that she’s pregnant but with me there’s no interest.
I know my husband’s family will be thrilled, but it’s very hard to deal with the feeling that my mother, that I’m very close to, doesn’t seem like she’ll be very happy at all.