Post # 1
I was discussing with another mom friend about how the internet is both a blessing and a curse when it comes to parenting, especially being a new parent. There are so many great resources and tons of good information out there that sometimes I wonder how new parents figured it out before Google! But the internet is full of so much judgement among parents. People have such strong opinions and you’re always doing it wrong according to someone and it can sometimes be hard to not doubt yourself when it comes to your parenting skills. I’ve removed a few of my mom groups from my Facebook feed because I was seeing too much negativity and bickering and I wanted to distance myself from it and focus on doing what I feel is right for my family.
I just want to emphasize that this isn’t meant to discuss or start a debate on any parenting topics.
So how about you? Has your opinion and use of the internet changed since becoming a parent? Do you try to distance yourself from parenting debates?
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Post # 2
I find that some people I thought I knew have some parenting ideas that I REALLY disagree with. I have to “unfollow” some!
Post # 3
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Agreed. “Back in the day,” women relayed on others in their circles- their moms, other female relatives, their ped and Dr. Spock for advice. There wasn’t the “Mommy Shaming” you can see on blog posts.
I’ve been fortunate to find a local facebook group that is very supportive/strict “rules” on how we talk to each other. Dear Daughter is just over 2 months old, and Darling Husband and I are finding out what works for us. Every baby and parent is different- I try to take the advice that I like and keep my mouth shut when I think something is stupid. 🙂
Post # 4
Haha I just posted in another thread how great it is with the internet now.
When I had my eldest 21 years ago…There was nothing. No forums or anything. If I had questions I called my grandmother. (She was the baby guru and the closest figure of a mother I had as my mother basically wasn’t a mother) I probably annoyed the heck out of her with all my concerns.
With my last 10 years ago it was amazing to be on forums with other mothers. Although I was on my 4th and had very much experience with little illnesses and all the new mommy concerns it was still great.
I did find there was alot of dumb crap with some though. Li
Ile they would basically com pair thier baby’s mile stones to others and you got some that would put down others who’s chikdren didn’t advance as far (or like they had some superior mothering techniques that made thier baby crawl sooner..lol as if) or you got the ones who always thought something was wrong with thier child because thier baby wasn’t crawling early etc.
I think the internet is great. Especially for illnesses. Rashes..etc. normal things that happen to babies and I know I was rushing to the doctors too as a new mother before wouldn’t have concerned me as much if I had visuals to compare to like you do today at the click of a button. Also so many amazing ideas from other mothers that you can incorporate into things that you would have never thought of before.
As for parenting ideas…well maybe because I’m a little older or because I’ve been there done that..but I always went against the grain of what my family said anyhow ( i was a baby wearing ebf mommy when no one in my family ever bf ‘ d except my grandmother) but if u don’t agree with me I just never cared. We are all individual and so are our ways to parent. U give the advice you have and take the advice that fits you. Ignore everything else.
Post # 5
I’m not a parent, but the internet makes me scared to be. It seems that no matter what you do you’re wrong. It’s true – there’s no right way to parent, as long as you’re not neglecting or abusing your child you’re doing it right – but the internet will tell you you’re wrong no matter what.
My sister is a great mom, but for the first 9 months she was constantly upset that she was failing because other moms were ‘doing it better’.
Post # 6
I’ve found a few FB groups that are wonderful (like very little judgement).
But otherwise, there is definitely some people with strong opinions that should keep it to themselves. Or find a way to share info without being crappy about it.
I do love google though and some of the amazing resources online as far as feeding, sleep, bfing, pumping, etc.
Post # 7
‘the internet will tell you you’re wrong no matte what’ haha so true. I really LOL’d!
I have learnt so much on the internet. I wonder if it has partly replaced my relationship with my mother if I had been born 50 years ago. Like, would I have been callng her up 50 x a day?
What I am constantly baffled by is how much mothers – and it is always mothers, not fathers – obssess about things I consider to be minutiae. It makes me wonder if I’m too laissez faire in my approach. so you’re right, you can’t win at parenting!