Post # 1
This is the first post I’ve ever written. Wanted to share my experience of our baby class on the weekend. 🙂
Just a little background, we are both 27 (28 by the time the baby comes) and have been together for over 9 years; married for 2. We have a 5 year old dog that we love like our child and we bought our first home earlier this year. I am currently 29 weeks pregnant. We are both very excited to grow our family. My husband is definitely more nervous than I am about a having a newborn in the house. Obviously it’s a big change for both of us but I have more experience with children growing up then he does. He has never even held a baby before. We are the first in our close group of friends to have a baby. I’ve wanted kids for a while now. He has always wanted to be a dad but wasn’t ready until recently. We talk often about how we are feeling about the pregnancy process/newborn.
Many of his coworkers are starting families and he has been reaching out to them for advice. I read a lot but reading is not his thing. I decided to sign us up for a parenting class in our area. It was taught at a local college by a public health nurse (we live in Ontario btw). It covered the labour process, interventions, what our local hospitals have to offer, caring for a newborn, breastfeeding, postpartum depression, infant CPR, and how dad can get involved in everything. I really enjoyed it. My husband LOVED it. He said it definitely made him feel more comfortable. It brought up great conversations between us on labouring and parenting styles.
I would totally recommend new parents attend classes offered in your area, if possible. I know there is a ton of information online but it was nice hearing more definitive answers from an actual health care professional. Yes, you can also talk to your OB/Midwife but for us, my husband doesn’t have time to attend all the appointments (so many!). He did make it to the ultrasounds though!
Sorry this was long. I’m just so happy with the experience and now I’m even more excited to meet our little one!
Post # 2
I’m gonna sound awful here, yes the classes can be brilliant but they are also biased, I also HATE the fact they concentrate on breast feeding, if for any reason you can’t do it DO NOT FEEL BAD not everyone can (neither me or baby could, he couldn’t latch and i couldn’t create enough) YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE so never feel like one. Also every baby is different and when they are born you might find that what you learnt in that class is useless. People can tell you what to expect with labour but again everyone is different. I expected it to last forever and to be given painkillers and a water birth, neither happened, in fact I had a very fast labour and birth, 6 hours labour 10 minute birth, most first time mums take 12 or more hours labour. Just take everything with an open mind and be ready for anything and everything. Enjoy your pregnancy and remember to relax
Post # 3
Owly : They focused on breastfeeding techniques because it’s hard work but they definitely didn’t insist on breastfeeding or state that it is easy and everyone can do it. They talked about formula feeding, as well. The breastfeeding is what I focused on as it is what I’m interested in doing and my husband was very uncomfortable by it. He is much more on board now. I totally understand what you’re saying though. I’m expecting to fail at first then hopefully things sync and get better. As for labouring they just informed on all your options and all potential interventions. She said normally people have a Plan A, B, and C and often they fall somewhere in Plan B but there is no guarantee. I’m an open book style birth planner. I have an idea of what I want but I’m expecting it not to go that way.
I was mostly sharing my experience for people who are really nervous or who have partners that are very nervous and not sure how to get involved. It was great for our communication. Definitely have to talk it all with a grain of salt.
Post # 4
Congrats on your pregnancy!
I plan on taking a local parenting class later on in my pregnancy as well for my husbands sake. I’ve worked years in preschools and daycares and also am a nanny so I have alot of experience, but my husband does not! He is over the moon about becoming a dad, but I think a class will give him an extra boost of confidence 🙂