(Closed) Parenting Tips

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 4
1778 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My little guy is only 10 months… but my best tip is this:


Have a sense of humor.  You are going to get peed on, spit up on, and just when everything is looking great, something is going to go wrong!  If you can laugh and really enjoy your child, I think that things will go smoother.


I personally think a lot of people are kind of mean to their kids in public.  I hear a lot of “I’m gonna kill you if you do xyzwhatever” or “shut up.”  If people truly just chill the f out a little bit and try to enjoy their kids more, I think the adults will be happier and the kids will be able to pick up on the positibe vibes and learn to be better behaved.


(There are a LOT of other factors, I know this, but what I am suggesting I think will help children who don’t have any legitimate issues)


Post # 5
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m not a mom but I do have 5 siblings and Darling Husband has 6. So between us we have 14 nieces/nephew so I have seen a wide array or parenting styles & techniques and how kids turn out.

#1 parenting rule I have learned is around discipline. You absoloutely have to follow through on the discipline you say you are going to give. For example “IF you don’t put down that vase, you’re going in the corner” If that kid does not put down the vase and does not go in the corner they will not listen to you. Kids will always test their limits and boudnaries and if you don’t follow through on your discipline they have no reason to listen to you.

Also you need direct consequences for discipline. To say “if you don’t stop that you aren’t going to get any presents for christmas” ,when it’s July is ridiculous. Because, A- you’re never going to follow through with that threat (you know it and they know it) B- it’s too far in the future. Kids need direct consequences for their actions.

Post # 6
46611 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are the parent. You need to be in charge of your children.

Every day I hear this from parents:

” He won’t let me take his temperature.”

“He won’t let me give him Tylenol.”

If you are not in charge of an 18 month old, you certainly will not be in charge of a 13 year old.

To be clear, I am not advocating cruelty, domination and fear as methods of parenting. I am merely suggesting that you have expectations of your children and that in many situations, you are the one making the decision, not them. They have plenty of time to learn decision-making on their own, when it is appropriate.

Post # 7
1222 posts
Bumble bee

@julies1949:   Oh my God, this. The other day I was talking to my neice about her cousin. Apparently his teeth had rotted through and needed caps because he’d been drinking so much chocolate milk! When I asked why his mom did that, my neice said, “Because he wants it. It’s his favorite drink.” I have no kids, but I was flabbergasted. The kid is two! Who is the parent in this situation? He isn’t fixing himself a glass of chocolate milk every day. But this is the same mom that posts on Facebook all the time about how important it is to discipline your kids then posts when he does naughty things like hitting her for not getting his way like it’s cute. It’s not. Discipline starts early and she’s going to regret letting him walk all over her when all of his teeth haven’t even come in. That lesson- that he’s the boss- is going to be hard to unteach, even this young.

Post # 8
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m a nanny, not a parent, but my advice is not to do every little thing for a child. Let them build self efficacy and responsibility. And, as a bonus, you should have to clean up after them less often because they aren’t used to someone swooping in and fixing all their messes

Post # 10
2951 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@FutureMrsBess:  I think it’s really important to teach your children the value of money. If my children want something they need to earn it. I refuse to raise children that believe they deserve everything. Both of my boys understand how to save their money and not just waste it. Money doesn’t come easy in life and children need to learn how to manage it. 

Post # 11
1112 posts
Bumble bee

I’m not a parent yet, but I do have some advice (I think)!

Everyone tries to “right all the wrongs” that THEIR OWN parents did when they were growing up, but I think it’s smart to remember some of the BEST things your own parents did, and impart those upon your children.  A quote to think about:

“[We] take pride in how different we are from our parents, yet are endlessly sad at how different our children are from us.” – Andrew Solomon


Post # 12
783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@TogetherThroughLife:  lol I will do this in the following ways:

I will not spank my children, or publicly humiliate them. I will not be an alcoholic, and ask my daughters friend who *just* got her license to drive me to the liquor store. I am going to do everything humanly possible not to be a “yeller”. There are so many more ways to communicate that don’t involve yelling. I am also going to do my best to not let my children become materialistic. I always had a shit ton of toys. When half the time I would be playing with what we already had in the house. I will also not take away every friend my child makes. In junior high and Highschool, whenever I was “caught” doing something I wasn’t supposed to (ex: have a boyfriend, skip a class..etc), whoever I was with at the time, I was no longer allowed to hang out with and my mother would tell my teachers I wasn’t allowed to sit by them. I pretty much had no friends because of this. Another thing is whenever my mom would buy me something for Christmas or my birthday, it would be the first thing taken away from me I did anything wrong. If I was such a horrible child- why buy me anything in the first place. This also included big purchases I made on my own. She was very much like “because you are my child, your money is my money, your stuff is my stuff”. All. The. Time.

I don’t hate her now, but I was a complete asshole to her as a teenager for this. Things I will do: I will make sure my kids know how important education is, and not to rush into having relationships in Highschool. 


Post # 13
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some of the items that I have read recently or been adviced etc that I will be trying to implement in my own life with soon-to-be baby (Due Nov)

General Items

  • Discuss your discipline methods with your husband. You must be on the same page. This relates to the below bullet.
  • Consistency. Do what you say. Mean what you say. If you give a warning, follow through. If you want to start a sleep training schedule, follow through. Nothing works if you dont keep it consistant.
  • Your a parent first. Don’t try to be a friend. Friendship is something that will require patience and is earned over time. In friendships there is respect on both sides and if are not a parent first and teach boundaries and good morals, than how can you respect your own child and how can your child respect you if they know they can walk all over you.
  • Demonstrate a strong family and marriage relationship. Your child is not the center of the universe and will adjust better and know how to give and take if they do not believe they are the center of the family. Seeing a strong marriage where the whole family and marriage because before the wants of a small child is better for a child long term. No one is going to cater to your child outside. They need to learn to give in order to get. Everyone loves a person who is helpful and works hard. No one likes a person that demands and expects the world to give them everything with no appreciation or give in return.

Post # 14
6830 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Here is the thing, you can give parenting tips all you want but sometimes the best laid out plans for how you parent goes out the window sometimes and you just need to go with the flow.

I also believe having your own child on how you parent is completely different than how you “parent” a sibling, or niece/nephew or the child you watch for daycare/nanny. 

I used to work in daycare, how I “parented” in said daycare and used to nanny part time also is completely different than how I parent my own child. 

I think also comes from being an older mom, I a much more laid back in certain aspects of his life than I was in daycare or when  nannied. 

If had to give one piece of advice would definately say have a sense of humor.  Because your child can make you so angry, sad or happy and sometimes the best way to deal with it is humor! 

Post # 16
2951 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@FutureMrsBess:  my children have set jobs they must complete everyday and they get paid per job however if its not done and I have to do it I subtract my fee for doing it. They always have the opertunety to do extra jobs to earn extra money. They always remain ahead:)

For birthdays/Christmas if they receive money we always set up a spread sheet on the computer so they can see how much they have and what they have bought. They both still have money saved from last Christmas. My boys are 13&11 and they already have a great understanding of not being wasteful of money. 

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