Post # 1
So, my fiancee and I had our very first meeting with our pastor about our wedding…and it went great except when we began talking about our families. My parents are sweet and very supportive for the most point;however, they have been firm with their decision not to attend my wedding. They are from the country and just feel like same sex marriages are not withgod’s plan and feel like I am making a mistake. Which is not a far off idea in the black community. They say they like my fiancee as a person but do not like the fact we are together. Also, my fiancee’s mom is a jevoah witness and believes same sex anything is a sin. Shes very devoted and her and my fiancee kind of live different lives because of this. Her mother knows of me, we have met but she is like my parents that she likes me as a person but she would prefer for her daughter not to be gay.With all this planning I am starting to really realize that our parents will be a no-show at our wedding. I dont know how this will make me feel when we get closer to the day but Iguess my question is : have any of you had a parentless wedding? If so, how did you explain it? And, Do you speak to your parent:s now afterwards?
Post # 3
@MrsMillieMoo: For a while it was looking like our parents were going to be a no show too. Thankfully my mom is finally starting to come around. It took several months before she asked me anything about the wedding. My mom doesn’t think we should get married, she thinks it’s ok that J and I are together but that she doesn’t understand why we want other people to know. In other words gay is ok as long as you stay in the closet. I think she is only attending out of fear of losing me.
I highly doubt that FIs parents will attend. I’ve met them before and they are friendly to me, but they think that being gay is a one way ticket to hell. She told them when we got engaged back in April and they pretty much ignored it and haven’t said anything since. I think she will still talk to her parents, but by not showing up it’s going to ruin her relationship with her parents. I also really worry that she is going to spend much of the day crying about the fact that her parents aren’t there. Thankfully her sister (after having to think about it for a couple of months) has agreed to come to the wedding.
Post # 4
my fiances family are also Jehova they consider me their daughter thats how they refer to us as their “daughters” but also will not be attending the wedding. her cousins and sister will but thats about all her family. and jus my mom and sister. the rest of my family says the same thing they love her shes a great person with a good heart but dont see us a “couple” and its not ok in Gods eyes.
Just continue to pray and everything will work out how its suppose to. You really find out what your friends are for at times like these.
Hope all planning is going good!